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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 81

Tiana - I loved the quote too. Went up on my facebook page. Also, thinking about it when i go to work today. thx

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

Tiana,

I love that quote - it is going up on my bulletin board at work! I have been looking for some positive messages and this one is perfect for me.

Thank you!

Athena

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Tough call: do I keep up the facade of 'I've got my act together', or be vulnerable but authentic by asking for help? Be true to yourself is great advice and takes strength.

A relevant quotation by Dr. Suess that I love:

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Tiana, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 13

Hi!

i feel just like you, i'ts like everybody i know thinks i'm next to perfect. But i know that i'ts because i want them to! Sometimes i feel like screaming to them: you know what? I am an alcoholic, there, what do you think of me now?!?

What i think is important is that YOU know the real you, the rest of the world and theyre jugment means not alot, because the grass is not greener on the other side, sometimes, i'ts even worst... Good luck to you!xxx

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Wow is right Pinky. It sounds like you are having a major break through. Just the fact that you realize some friends are not good to hang with is a big leap.Maybe someday you will be able to have them back in your life if you chose to do so. I am sorry your other half is still making it harder for you to hold your ground but you are so strong and it is his choice to drink not yours. Hopefully you will both come to some understanding and help each other. I am so happy for you. Sounds like your life is turning a corner. Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing. It makes all of our journeys easier.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8

Wow..so nice to check in after a bit and see that ppl feel the same and offer encouragement.

For the first time in ages my children are doing well in school, sports, and life ..they are 10 and 8...they can tell that this sober mom is good...!! Work is easier...still have not told any coworkers about my issues. I still feel like I can't. Maybe one day that will change.

My other half however is totally not where I would like...he has a few beers everynight and more on the weekend...so I am managing okay (for the most part) on my own but am now wondering how we deal with other family members that refuse to stop or cut down?

I am also finding that problems that I tried to drink away are still there...lol...but have a very different view on them now.

I have also found that there are certain "friends" that need to be cut loose as I have nothing in common anymore and need to realize that that is okay.....

I am really happy to have found this outlet..thanks everyone for all your help...it really does help!

Getting late so going to fall asleep....not drunk.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 221

Pinky,

Sounds like you're biggest challenge is when you are alone or on your days. It could be because these are the times when you use to drink the most. Sometimes the feeling of being alone can be overwhelming, and your way to cope with it was alcohol. There are numerous reasons why this could be so. Take sometime to think about it.

What activities can you do when you are alone?

You're doing great, and you're strong. Keep coming to the forums, reading post and finding support from other memebers. We are all here to support you and build your strength. You have it inside you.

Helena, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

Hi there Pinky.

It is so reassuring to know that there are other women like me out there. I am also a professional who is "put together" for work, but drink myself to oblivion when I am at home. I work in children's mental health (so I know how my drinking affects my children) and also worry that attending a group could affect my credibility. I am going into day nine and I am startled by the clarity that sobriety is bringing me. I think that I was fooling myself into believing that no-one was aware I have a problem. At work - I think people would be surprised to hear that my problem is with alcohol, but this new clarity makes me so much more aware of how often I had trouble forming coherent sentences at morning meetings, or how forgetful I was (and still am to some degree) or how moody or tired I was. I have not told anyone at home about my problem, but the effect of my sobriety on my children and husband are staggering. There has been so much less tension, conflict and drama than usual over the past week. Today my nine year old daughter said, "I had the best day today - I don't know why but I am really happy!" - this from a child who spent at least three or four evenings a week in her room in tears or having a tantrum.

Pinky, I am very new at this, but I am starting to believe that I am someone who should never touch a drink. But I now know that the same strengths that enable me to function in a high pressure environment at work can be mobilized to keep myself positive and optimistic. You are stronger than you think!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 81

Hi there. Welcome! I can totally identify with your thoughts. I am a registered nurse - have a good position in management, look put together, act put together but 28 days ago I was drinking a bottle and a half of wine (sometimes more) every night - 7 days a week. I am on Day 27 of sobriety. When I started on this journey I wasn't sure whether or not I was going to cut down or stop. I couldn't imagine life without having at least a glass of wine with my dinner. But, something clicked and I realized that I needed to stop. I was embarrassed to admit this to my dr. and therpaist - after all, I was a put together professional - how could I have a problem? Well, I did and my dr. reassured me that there are lots of us "professionals" who have the exact same problem and it's not something to be embarrased about! Now that I've stopped drinking, I feel 100% better - I can't really put into words just how much better I feel both physically and mentally. each day that has passed I have gained confidence and strength. Take one day at a time, ask God (whoever that is for you) for courage and strength, and most of all be gentle on yourself. Like you, I don't want to go to meetings...I have been able to do this with support and counselling from my family dr. and a therapist - also this website is helpful. But, the most important thing is that you get better and have the help you need so if meetings are what you need so be it. Good luck and hang in there. From one nurse to another.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

I am upset with myself for not being strong enough to manage this...or control it.

Here is a very crucial fact from the Book called Alcoholics Anonymous:

The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so called will power becomes practically nonexistent. We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and humiliation of even a week or a month ago. We are without defense against the first drink.

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I struggled with the idea of controlling the times i would drink in a week or amount of drinks i would take but always failed. Later i entered AA, i came to realize that i am alcoholic so i could never safely drink any amount of alcohol ever again.

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