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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

Hi June Bug,

After almost a year of actively seeking treatment/support, I have stopped drinking for 9 days and actually feel that there is hope for me. These painful, exhausting ups and downs are part of recovery. The fact that you are reaching out for support is sooo important.

The single most important thing that I have learned over the last year is that in order to fight this battle, you need to find people who can support you. They don't have to be your best friends, but it could be a combination of people who can support you in different ways. A family doctor, a friend who will have coffee with you, all of us at AHC...

Treat yourself with the care and compassion that you would treat someone else who is in pain. We are here for you.

Athena

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 9

June Bug,

I am only on day 3, and I can share you pain. While I do think it's important to think about one day at a time, I also think you should reflect on what good and potential you have to offer the future. It speaks volumes that you share your despair. Many people stay stuck in cycle of pain and suffering, without wanting to change. You are courageous. If you falter after two days, don't worry. I can sense your desire to change and I have confidence in you!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

That's what I meant to ask... fur sur

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Great question ~m!

Just to tweak it one little notch:

What is making you continue to drink?

What is stopping you from changing your behaviour?

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Junebug...

It is good to hear that you are trying to be more gentle and patient with yourself during the healing process. Being supportive of yourself is the best foundation for change. Keep it up!

You wrote:

I also made a drunk ass of myself infront of my seniors at my new wonderful job i pray i dont loose , but that goes with out saying becasue i always act like a fool when i drink.

So... Why do you drink?

Figuring out why I drink was really the starting point of me being able to loosen the control alcohol had over me.

Just wondering if you know why you drink and how you want to change your relationship with alcohol.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 108

Hi ~m

My bf used to party really hard, its not that he hates alcohol he hates what it did to him and how hammered he used to get. So he helps me not drink because he doesn't go to them trigger places i like to party at! So i came back from my first week of travelling and boy i was paired with a drinker , saying no well it didn't happen. i haven't touched anything before i left and since i came back but truth be told i did when i was away ....crap of course the guilt and depression came in especially how i let myself down again. but i am still trying i am going away again for another week and hope this time i have the strength. i have to try o be nicer to me i really get so hard on myself and feel like i am able to say no but am weak .i have to look at it differently , i have a problem and a disease not that i am weak. Anyhow thanks you for the reply :)

I also made a drunk ass of myself infront of my seniors at my new wonderful job i pray i dont loose , but that goes with out saying becasue i always act like a fool when i drink. :S

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Junebug.... having trouble saying no is not silly at all... it is pretty much at the crux of our problem. Wow... traveling with drinkers does sound like it will be rough. Will you be able to check in here while you are out? Also, did you ever make it to an AA meeting? Seems like it would help if you had more ppl around you that don't drink. And more people who understand so you could call for support when you are tempted. You said bf has quit and hates alcohol... that sounds maybe not so helpful. Thanks for checking in.. It helps to know how you are doing. Sometimes we gotta break this down to one step at a time! Even a tiptoe forward is still progress. You are on your way :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 108

Hi ~m

I feel like im vulnerable everyday. my biggest triggers right now is everyone in my life pretty much being partyers n just making it seem like its normal and im fine.my mind knows that its not fine butttt the disease which i know i do have is really trying to convince me that it is fine. this weekend i have a bad cough and feel like crap so i am at home. my boyfriend doesn't drink anymore he was just like me but worse and really hates alcohol. you would think that that would help me out but tryst me thats no problem for me and my alcoholic ways.i really really trying hard not to take a drink...but in June i know it will be a hard time because i will be travelling for work and EVERYONE DRINKS and saying no is well isn't done very often..i know it sounds silly but even for people without a problem cant say no imagine me and my tricking mind ....im scared...but i have to take it one day at a time . i have already turned away many drinks from family and friends sooooo just gotta take it one day at a time.

Than you :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Hey Junebug... good for you checking in when you know you are vulnerable! What are your biggest triggers at present? What IS your mind telling you? What is your reply? What are your plans for the weekend? What is going to keep you from taking that first drink? Keep posting! We are here for you.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 108

Thank u Ashley

it is last friday that i went out and went crazy. i am already battling myself, triggers are left right and center and my mind is tricking me ..trying to....just having a hard day today and everyday . , thank you so much for the support everyone :)

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