Beating ourselves up really doesn't work so well. I guess we all have to try it... again and again... before we realize... "Hey! This isn't helping!" What I found helpful was to take the pressure off quitting NOW while working through the toolbox quizzes and education pieces and then setting a quit/cutback date. That way, I had a better understanding of what I was up against and how to help myself through. Granted, it has taken me many tries, but each time I have learned something important. I really do think that honesty, kindness (to self), and perseverance are key. Hang in there Awakening... we can do this!