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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Hi Britt... welcome to this site and congratulations on managing 3 weeks sober. If you did it once, you can do it again. This is a good program with good tools and caring people. Work your way through the toolbox, read past posts and post as often as you like. I understand the sad... I think sad is the hardest emotion to deal with. The sessions at the Depression site are really helpful in learning how to "be" with your emotions. Also, I whole heartedly suggest you take Tiana's advice and use the empty-nest to enjoy a you-centered life...( I love that phrase)....enjoy your time while you can... trust me, if the kids don't come back to stay, they will surely come to drop off the grandkids someday/everyday and night and weekend

Anyway... you have come to the right place for help on your journey. I'm glad you found us.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

If you are looking for meetings in your area, the indicator next to the meeting usually tells you what kind of meeting it is:

BB: Big Book Meeting (meetings based on the book called Alcoholic Anonymous)

O/OD: Open meeting/Open Discussion meetings (where your spouse also can accompany)

CD: Closed Discussion (only for Alcoholics)

S : Speaker meeting

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Hi Britt,

Thanks for sharing with us. It is normal to feel a bit sad and maybe lost when kids leave the nest to go live their lives. It takes time to realize that it can be a great opportunity for you to have a full and 'you-centred' life again. If these feelings have been around for a while, you might want to discuss it with your doctor to make sure there is nothing else going on with your health. Foxman is the AA expert but in my experience the online AA meetings schedules do indicate what type of meeting it is. I also recommend you do our program. It has much great information and tools to help you get to the level of moderating/abstaining that you seek. Also, we have the sister program, the Depression Centre that you might want to check out- again more great tools, resources, support and information.

Good luck and do keep us posted!

Tiana, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2

If I'm looking on line, how do I know if it's a literature based AA meeting, will it say?

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Britt,

That is a great decision. Try to look for literature based AA meetings and thats where people who have a solution tend to be. You may also go to the AA on-line and start getting acquainted with the Book called Alcoholics Anonymous. Wealth of information on Alcoholism and the recovery from that seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. The co-founders story appears on next the doctors opinion. He was a chronic alcoholic but staged a recovery never to drink again until he died.very inspiring and powerful stories.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2

I feel similar to what you are describing, like there's nothing else to do so I'll drink to block it all out.

I had quit drinking for 3 weeks and on this past Friday and Saturday I drank a few drinks and some wine each night, along with my husband, who doesn't have a drinking problem, and I fell asleep (passed out, whatever) really early both days and the next day each time I felt confused, unhappy and depressed. Now this is Sunday and I'm back on track and I'm going to go to an AA meeting tomorrow because I obviously give in too easily to my demons. I find life really boring without drinking and without socializing with my drinking friends but as the saying goes I really am "sick and tired of being sick and tired".

I know that drinking makes me depressed but I have to say that I still feel sad when I don't drink. I feel like I need to look at other areas of my life, like my marriage, job. I am 59 years old and my daughter recently moved out to start her own life and my 20 year old son is gone most of the time and I'm really, really sad a lot, so I drink. I'm rambling, sorry, but that's how I feel today, sad and empty.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 221

Clarence,

Thank you for writing. You're making some important decisions right now.

You were able to quit for 21 days, and that shows that you are able to do it. You can get back on track. November 4th is your day to start again! Its a clean slate!

You also know your triggers. When you get irritated , you turn to drinking. When you're feeling irritated, you can come to the forums and write about it, instead of drinking. We're all here to support you during your difficult times.

Please let us know how you're doing.

Helena, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Clarence,

I had the same issue. After a period of abstinence, I will get restless irritable and discontent and for a silly reason I would start drinking and the obsession would return combined with the physical craving will be stuck in the vicious cycle. After reading the book called Alcoholics Anonymous, i came to realize i am an alcoholic that I need to have spiritual solution. And today I rely on the program of AA to stay sober.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hello clarence,

Thank you for sharing this with us, it sounds like you are going through a difficult time. It is important that you get back on track with your goals as soon as possible. You need to remember what worked for you in the past and use strategies that you know will be helpful. Use coping mechanisms to get through moments of weakness, write in a journal, find an alternative way to get your frustration out (boxing, working out, listening to music...etc). Work through the program here once again. Post often and know that we are here for you.

Samantha, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 21

Hello everyone, I had quit for more than 21 days and was doing well but then it all just changed one day when i gave into a desire to drink. I have been drinking ever since then. I think about quitting again everyday as i am drinking my normal intake of 5 beers and on heavy days 10. My relationship is very unstable with my girlfriend and alot of the time i feel i drink to deal with her and her daughter which are very irritating to me sometime. I try my best to look for the good but sometimes it just doesn't work and drinking just helps me ignore it but sometimes it helps me become angry and aggressive. I really have to evaluate if my relationship is beneficial to my quit, i have asked myself this question over and over. I want to be sober for my children I have with my gilfriend and my children I had with my ex wife. I need help, I can't get out of this rut this time even though thats what i want. I just keep going to the drink everyday to deal with life. It is really taking a toll on my health and emotional well being but i keep plugging away anyway. I have a question also, what is the best way to post on here without introducing yourself everytime because i have posted on here several times and just want to get on here and post without having to introduce myself everytime because i am not new to this site. Trying to quit, setting a quit date for the fourth of Nov and going to give myself a opportunity to make a clear decisions on this relationship ans where it is going completely sober, its the only way i'll make the right decision.

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