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Managing Family Stress Over the Holidays


14 years ago 0 11 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This is a great thread. I don't have anything to offer though, but learning to accept others' ways and behaviours really changed my outlook on things, including my family. Sometimes, "the power to change" must make way to "accepting what we can't change".
 
 The other thing is convincing others to accept. That way you try not toget caught in the crossfire.
 
Oh, and my kids are always arguing. I try to conceal my laughter...

14 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This is from power of NOW by ET: 
 
How can we drop negativity, as you suggest?
 
By dropping it. How do you drop a piece of hot coal that you are holding in your hand? How do you drop some heavy and useless baggage that you are carrying? By recognizing that you don't want to suffer the pain or carry the burden anymore and then letting go of it.
 
Deep unconsciousness, such as the pain-body, or other deep pain, such as the loss of a loved one, usually needs to be transmuted through acceptance combined with the light of your presence - your sustained attention. Many patterns in ordinary unconsciousness, on the other hand, can simply be dropped once you know that you don't want them and don't need them anymore, once you realize that you have a choice, that you are not just a bundle of conditioned reflexes. All this implies that you are able to access the power of Now. Without it, you have no choice.
14 years ago 0 11216 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Foxman!
 
Very well put.  For those who have trouble with acceptance what advice can you give them? How do you learn to accept?
 


Ashley, Health Educator
14 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
if we accept others the way they are we will have no problems. Thats were the issue arises. When we don't accept the situation, conflict arise and we are disconnected.
14 years ago 0 11216 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Members,

We’ve all seen the movies of the picture perfect holiday dinner. If only this were reality! Unfortunately, many of us have family issues that can make holiday parties a stressful event forcing us to go back to some of our old unwanted behaviours or fill the day with horrible emotions.

To help make the holiday a happier time of year try to compose a list with your family of all of the things that have to be done to have a happy and stress free day. Include things that have to be done, what would be nice and what you can live without. Once you’ve created this list, try delegating tasks amongst family members. Some people like to cook, others clean, kids usually love wrapping presents and decorating. Spread the weight of the seasons work to all family members.

If family members don’t get along, remember that you are not responsible for everyone’s happiness. Try to encourage team work to make the day as pleasurable as possible.

Members, any tips for dealing with family stress on the special day?
 
Ashley, Health Educator

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