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11 years ago 0 2508 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello snice!
Sorry to hear about the mess up this weekend..but it sounds like you have moved on and are back on the wagon again...So it is really up to you if you want to reset your meter again..Only you can answer that question...The important thing to remember is that you are here and that you have not smoked today..Thats what really matters..
 
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11 years ago 0 816 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello snice  Sorry to hear that you messed up. OK , you had a few cigars , but it isn't the end of the world. No one is here to beat up on you. We're here to lift people back up when they fall down. It takes a lot of courage to come here and admit that you made a mistake. Guess what ? It takes people on average 6 or more attempts to finally be able to stop. You aren't the only one to blow a quit. I couldn't seem to get past six weeks and found this time period tougher than the first week. So pick yourself up , dust yourself off and let's get back to business. I think that I've made every mistake known to man but the biggest mistake would be to give up. I know that anger will get the best off me every time. I know it seems like 5 weeks wasted now but you've proven to yourself that you can go smoke free for that length of time and you can do it again if you really want to. Personally I'd reset the meter if I had one puff but that's just me. Everyone's different so you should do what's right for you. Again , excellent for you snice for having the courage to come back. I urge you to stay with us. We're here to help when you're ready. breather
11 years ago 0 2778 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hey Snice!!!
 
      First of all, this isn't all doom and gloom!  Quitters slip, relapse, cave or whatever you want to call it.  The facts state that it takes us an average of 7 tries till we reach our forever quit!   What is important is that you never quit quitting and learn from the slip!  Can you tell us what you have learned and what you will do the next time a similar situation arises?  It may just be a matter of adding a new coping mechanism, removing yourself from the situation or re-affirming to yourself those reasons you are quitting!    
 
      The road to freedom is not always going to be a smooth path.  Life happens and you have to learn how to deal with every trigger situation without smoking.  You will encounter hundreds of triggers, maybe thousands by the time you get comfortable with your quit!  It's hard, it takes extreme will power and committing to N.O.P.E.  It's a huge commitment, but that is what it takes... there is no other option!  
 
      You have done so well these past 5 weeks and you have shown great dedication to your quit!  I'm proud of your achievement and proud of you for having the courage to let us know about your slip... that's very hard, too!  Right now, just dust yourself off and hop right back into the saddle and re-commit to NOPE!  I know how bad you want this, so kick that demon's ash and ALWAYS tell it NOPE!!!  You CAN do this!
 
      Now, for the meter thing... Your question has been asked hundreds of times here.  Some will tell you that you should re-set it, some will tell you it's only a slip and if it helps you on your journey to keep your meter as it is, don't bother changing it!  I'm going to tell you this... it's your meter and I'm still going to support you in whatever decision you make!    
 
            Jim 
  • Quit Meter

    $44,385.00

    Amount Saved

  • Quit Meter

    Days: 1062 Hours: 5

    Minutes: 53 Seconds: 51

    Life Gained

  • Quit Meter

    5918

    Smoke Free Days

  • Quit Meter

    177,540

    Cigarettes Not Smoked

11 years ago 0 187 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi All
 
After 5 great smoke free weeks I really messed up this weekend.  I was extremely upset on Saturday night and I had a couple little cigars (I usually smoked cigarettes).  Then I woke up Sunday and was so wound up, I smoked another one that morning.  I feel like I've cheated myself and there are no words for how disappointed I am with myself.  I probably could have handled the situation better, and the smoking didn't improve anything!  I feel like I've wasted 5 hard weeks.  I haven't smoked again, but feel like I should reset my counter.  What do you all think?

My Mileage:

My Quit Date: 11/06/2012
Smoke-Free Days: 35
Cigarettes Not Smoked: 525
Amount Saved: $280.00
Life Gained:
Days: 2 Hrs: 17 Mins: 1 Seconds: 8


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