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Hi Kayla, Hope you day has improved! It might be wise to go back on the patch for a week or two until life improves a bit around home. (I think the 7mg is recommended for 2 weeks) That of course, is your choice! AS for the teens, lots of advice from us, but you know yourself what is best for your own children! And yes, please vent all you want with us! We are here to listen! We'll help if we can! Again, Happy 40th and I am sure you will be joining me on the ship in 10 days! :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 51 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,296 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $538.05 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20
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Kayla, You made it!!!!! Good for you. I echo what everyone else has said...you'll be dealing with your daughter and boyfriend whether you smoke or not, you'll just add a layer of guilt onto it. Pamper yourself!!!!!!!!! I liked freemom's suggestion....watch a funny movie...laughter really does break through all the more unpleasant emotions. And set guidelines for your daughter and stick to them. Been there myself. You'll get through it. -aloha [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 34 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,392 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $231.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16
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Kayla, I think Freemom has given you very good advice. Let it out, and then get on to something else. Hope you are doing well! Nance
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Tutti that was beautiful!!! Maybe someday my daughter will realize what it's like to be a parent. She's happy that I quit smoking yet she has tried the other kind of smoke which she found during her visit with her dad and likes it.This also explains the attitude change from a sweet respectful kid to a back talking child. Unfortunately short of going back to court my hands are tied. I did let her father know in no uncertain terms that I will persue this if I find out she's using during her visits.. Part of my quitting smoking is to set an example to her among other reasons. It's tough as you know and I can only do my best to be a good parent. I really do appreciate everyone's advise and I am hanging in there. Just really bummed out and taking it one minute at a time. I'll go to bed soon and hope tomorrow is a better day. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 40 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,428 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $440 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
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Kayla, sometimes 17 year old boys can lose their way. My youngest son did lose his way. After a while, thank God he found a compass. He's 22 years old now. Below, I pasted a letter he wrote to me on Mother's Day 2006. Hugs, Tutti Dear Mom, This is Mothers Day and I take great pleasure in reminding you that your son is thinking of the best friend he ever had. Words cannot express the thoughts that came to my mind on the day set aside in rememberance of the one who bore all the trials and troubles of raising one of the most ungrateful and troublesome boys in the world. I realize today more than ever how hard it has been on you in more ways than one, and just wanted to tell you, and ask forgiveness for all the trouble I have caused you in the past. I am turning over a new leaf and working hard to be a success so you will have cause to be proud of me. Please don't think I am indifferent or neglectful when I don't write as often as I should. You know it is the hardest thing in the world for me to write a letter at best and I am so busy I don't have very much time to myself. Hope that you and the rest of the family are well and happy. Your Loving Son, [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/18/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 66 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,002 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $236.94 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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Hi Kayla. I hope you are starting to relax and feel a little better. A few things I'd like to note : 1- The issues you have would still be there even if you smoked (as others said) 2- On some level, your subconscious may be "creating" a bigger problem out of the situation - it's the junkie in you trying to dig it's claws into you before it fades away more. I don't know if it's a coincidence that today is 40 days for you - from what I've read it seems common to have rough spots around milestones. 3- If you can get yourself the private time/space - maybe you need to express the sad feelings that have been hiding behind that smoke cloud. Let yourself curl up in bed and cry, write your feelings down in a journal, etc... Maybe then you will feel better. Really! And you can always watch a funny movie after to "move on" to another emotion. Finally - Congrats on those 40 days - you should be proud of yourself! One more thing - I think I hear growling - it may be BEAR! :gasp: He'll want you to hang in, too. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/29/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 27 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 333 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $110.16 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19
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Kayla! I think every mother (especially single ones) of a 14 year old girl deserves a medal. I know I didn't make it easy on my own single mom, and my girls (2 of them) didn't go out of their way to make it easy on me, either. It does get better, maybe not real soon, but it does get better. It's all the hormone stuff that we come to understand much better as we age. My girls are now married, one with children of her own (and her own daughter, no less! LOL). I know if I had the opportunity, I would have apologized to my mother once I had a 14 year old girl, but alas, my mother was no longer with us. I wonder if my girls will apologize to me eventually...and now that I am not smoking, hopefully I will be around to hear it! Stay quit, stay focused, and stay MOM! You are the woman! Nance [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/14/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 70 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,120 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $339.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47
17 years ago 0 852 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello Kayla! You have received some awesome responses here!! What a cheering section, huh? It's amazing how strangers can come together and feel like our best friends! I remember when I was 14. Unfortunately, that is when I turned away from that "good girl" thing.......... I thought I was so grown up! But, almost EVERY 14 year old acts horribly. That's their job! Your battling a person with a grown up body with a childs mind........ I finally now understand why my parents did what they did. It took having my own kids to understand it. I quit cold turkey, so I really have no advice for you on the patch. I can only say that if you are ready for it, then go for it. But don't jeapordize your quit by being eager. You will go through withdrawl again (which you felt!!!) It won't be like the beginning though. Whatever you choose, just know you have us to turn to! We will be there for you through all of your ups and downs. Keep your chin up! You are doing a GREAT job! You WILL get through this. One step at a time! Reward yourself now. You sure deserve it! 4my2girls [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 416 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,499 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1360.32 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
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Hi Kayla, Having a teenage girl can be hard sometimes. But you know, even if you had never smoked the problems would be exactly the same. These problems have nothing to do with quitting or smoking, having a teenager is due to that, nothing else. And what Phil says is true, stay on the patches as long as you think they need them. Patches has helped many people, so don't make it harder on yourself. I hope everything works out for the best. Have a good day :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 389 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,689 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1147.55 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 54 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
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Hey Kayla, Kids could have come with an instruction manual, huh? :mad: Kayla, you're the Mom and you know you have to be consistent with the guidelines that you've set down. Your daughter lost your trust, she has to prove herself trustworthy. (I'm speaking from experience too!!) If you decide it's okay to give your daughter an inch, then stick to that. Don't give in to the mile until YOU believe your daughter has earned that level of trust. Again, you're the Mom and your boyfriend doesn't have a say. IMO You are going through some serious stress right now and you have to find other ways, other than smoking, to deal with that stress. Right now, that demon is trying to use that stress to con you into smoking. Chew him out by saying things like, "Ahh, bite me!!" Or worse if need be!! But fuss at him so you can release some of the tension you're feeling right now. If I'm remembering right, you've been sick with strep so you're worn out, the stress you're under is sooo tiring, and fighting the craves can be down right exhausting. Keep posting, get through this day, and make sure you pamper yourself big time. You deserve it!! You NEED and DESERVE a HUGE reward for those 40 FANTASTIC DAYS!!! You're doing an awesome job and I'm so proud of you. Stay Strong, Tutti [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/18/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 66 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,996 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $236.94 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55

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