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18 years ago 0 1450 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This place just wouldn't be the same without your controversial/provactive threads golferman. :) - In my opinion, the key to 'quitting smoking' success is utilizing what works for you. In order to determine what WILL work for you, you must be willing to get to KNOW yourself. You have to be honest with yourself if you are to learn what you need to know. Anything less will eventually lead 2slips and/or relapse because you haven't discovered how 2 successfully deal with your stress. Again, just my opinion. I do not wish to judge anyone here. I don't care if you are smoking right this moment or not as long as you sincerely want to quit. That's the important thing for me. Now, with all that said. I will also add this... Golferman if you were to come in here and say you slipped I would be devastated. So if you ever do...don't tell me!~lol ~all the best N2k [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/20/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 147 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,255 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $735 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
18 years ago 0 389 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm confused as to what good would come to a person from lying about their quit on a website to a group of total strangers? Does that person actually feel good about themselves because people who don't really even know them "think" that you've quit just because you said you did (even though it was not true)? I for one would never even consider it. When I slipped, I admitted it right away...lying to you or even myself isn't going to make me stay quit! So, here I am on my second quit...more days than I made it last time and darn proud of it!! N.O.P.E. Janet [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/3/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 11 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 236 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $33 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
18 years ago 0 453 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I was a quitter who became a slipper. Eventually the truth settled in very quietly but, oh so securely. Like cement. I no longer smoke. That's it. Thoughts & memories be damned. Each of us comes around at our own pace. Cold Turkeys think they're special! (but they're not.) (P.S. I'm a Cold Turkey, so don't take offense...) Mc [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/31/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 136 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,041 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $544 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
18 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Awe our Golferman appears. I don't believe the newbies have had the pleasure. :) The great thing about our quit family here is that it is a family. This is one place I can always come and be myself regardless of the situation. I can be frank and honest. If I need to vent, I can vent. If I am depressed I can cry. If I'm mad; that is ok too. It doesn't matter. We are all here for the same purpose....to break free of a horrible addiction and to help others do the same. Quitting is serious business and it is hard. Some days are worse than others and as time goes on the bad days are fewer and farther between. If we can't be honest here then how can we expect to successfully quit? You said ...[i]there is no shame in failure[/i].... no one has failed unless they quit quitting. Regardless of how many times it takes. I personally support anyone who is in the process of breaking free of this addiction in any way I possibly can. Great post as usual Joe. Nice to have you back :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 197 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,940 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $689.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 17 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26
18 years ago 0 112 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well, I must be a naive fool but it would never occur to me that people would lie on an internet site. In real life, oh yes, 'cause I lied about smoking for the last 15 years. Pretended I didn't smoke, hid from colleagues and friends, lied to my husband, blah, blah, blah. But lie on an internet site? What's the point? So Golferman, how do you know people lied? How do you know people were posting about not smoking as they were dragging one down? I'm curious.. Also, re: the tough love stuff. Maybe people came across as sarcastic and uncaring without meaning to. Sometimes when I've reread my own posts I see that they are not exactly as I had intended. Just a thought. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/6/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 225 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,058 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1620 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 20 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Being dishonest on an annonymous website is like playing tennis with the net down. What's the point? I mean, you're not cheating anyone but yourself! Not being honest with ourselves is probably the most detrimental thing we could possibly do. Without honesty, who are we hurting? Us. That's it. Sometimes, when someone posts that they slipped, especially if the person is further along in their quit, it causes others to get discouraged and possibly stumble themselves. This is unfortunate, but each one of us can only be responsible for our own quits. What someone else does is thier responsibility. For me to say that I'm not going to post about a slip because I'm worried about how others will react is just an excuse. That's like blaming someone else for my slips. I know that nobody else is to blame for my mistakes. We are all responsible for our own quits... nobody else. I know from experience that posting about a slip isn't easy. But I believe that it's worth it in order to get the very most out of this site. This site is designed to help ALL quitters... those who have been quit for several years, those who are new to the quit and even those who have slipped or relapsed several times. This site is here for everyone and posting about our mistakes helps not only ourselves but it also helps others to know the pain that it causes so they can be careful to not make the same mistakes ourselves. It's not fun to post about a slip and you often get some responses that you don't really want to read, but the fact is that those people writing the "tough love" posts are doing it, not to hurt you, but to help get you back on track. Without those posts, I easily would have slipped more times than I have or would have made them full blown relapses instead of the one-time slips that they were. And I know that there have been a few times when I didn't slip because I knew how people here would react. So knowing that I would have to post about a slip is what kept me on track a lot of the time. I hope that everyone who has a slip or a relapse can use this site to its full potential. That's what it's here for. Use it folks. Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/butterfly3.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]
18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bovary, I DID come to your defense on that one!!!!! That was posted, and I came to your defense but the entire thread got deleted!!! You may not have seen it before it got deleted, but I promise you, I did defend you. As for tough love posts... I have seen some that cross the line like what you're talking about, and you are right that THOSE posts are not tough love posts. All that does is make the person feel unwanted, which is the last thing that ANYONE wants to see. I hope that you do continue to post here, Bovary. I think you've been around long enough to know that that is NOT the sentiment of everyone here, but perhaps one or two. You are most certainly welcome here, and I hope that you know that. Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/butterfly3.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 78 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,972 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $257.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20
18 years ago 0 68 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lying to the site is like a habit that is hard to break I expect. We have spent so many years (decades!) lying to ourselves about smoking we got into the habit. Now is the time to be honest to yourself first of all. Sheller [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 13 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 186 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $65 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 54 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11
18 years ago 0 610 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
thanks for the post gman, I tried to be an honest quitter on this site. I gave encouragement and shared my joy and pain. The last time i slipped an scc member accused me of only posting when I slipped, by saying "the only time we hear from bovary is when she slips", which was not true. That was not tough love. It was just mean. And, noone came to my defense. (that probably hurt the most) Maybe all were thinking, "oh, she has slipped to many times, don't waste time on her" After that, I left the site. It was unfortunate for me, because i liked this site. Unlike with my experience, this site should give people help and encouragement no matter how many times they slip. Tough love is also so good, but not condemnation and sarcasm. If it is in their heart, (which just being here shows that it is), they will persist until they get it right, as I am. And they deserve our support. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 37 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 909 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $148 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
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18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
duffis, You said.. [b][color=black]I have become my own icon and there is no way in hell I could ever smoke again let alone come back here and say "I slipped...er......had a puff....smoked only two or three.........got drunk and woke up with a pack of smokes......my hormones exploded......my bf messed up my mind........my dog pi**ed on my new carpet and I ran down and got a pack......ect, ect, ect.[/color][/b] Now that I have caught my breath and wiped the tears from my eyes from laughing uncontrollably for the last 3 minutes, I must say... [b][color=blue]Touche'[/color][color=black]!!!!![/color][/b] Only you Bob, only you!! [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 244 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,114 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $597.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 42 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 11 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12
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