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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 481

Here is something I found here yesterday. It made me just want to cry but it really is helpfull. The post was about a guy who slipped after 90 days. It is soooo true, don't give up giving up. Get out your tissue before you read this! There once was a man. He walked for 90 days. He walked hills and valleys. He crossed oceans and deserts. He helped many people and many people helped him. As he was trudging along, he was collecting stones. He planned on using these stones to build a house. He found alot of stones. He knew exactly how many stones he needed to build his house. After walking for 80 days this man came upon a bridge. Under this bridge there lived an evil troll. The troll did everything he could to make the man fall into the water. The man held on to the railings with all his might and didn't fall in! But the troll did manage to cause the man to slip. When he slipped, he lost a stone. Just one, mind you. It fell in to the water. Lost forever. The man was frantic. He was so upset with himself! How on earth could he build his house without that stone? He just didn't think the other 4074 stones mattered without the one he lost! He started walking again, despondent and alone. For 10 more days, the man walked. Ten days. During that time he considered dropping all the stones, one at a time. But something made the man hold on. Those stones had cost him too much to accumulate. He thought of those first days when the hills were steepest and the oceans widest. He had worked so hard to accomplish this gathering of stones. But still, the loss of that one stone caused him so much despair that he couldn't see the amazing thing he had accomplished! 90 days after the man first set out, he came across a group of his friends. These friends helped him to see many things about his stones. Each stone had it's own value. Each one was important in it's own right. If he had had to pay for these stone, they would have cost him $869...the one he lost was less than 22 cents. That meant he was 99.9876% successful!! Do you know what that man did? He set to work trying to figure out how he could make his house without that one stone! He decided to just leave it out of one of the walls! The absence of that one stone m

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

Skidoo ... how are you doing this morning? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 33 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,005 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $132 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

Good Morning Skidoo, First of all, I think you need one of these: [IMG]http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a17/Daniwiz/hug.gif[/IMG] OK now ... remember Skidoo that you should not take your slip/mistake personally. Slipping/Mistake/Failing is about behavior, outcomes, and results. Slipping/Mistake/Failure is not a personality characteristic. Because you made a mistake, doesn�t mean that you are a failure or stupid. And DO NOT be so hard on yourself. Hey, if nothing else, you know what doesn�t work. You can learn from that and add it to your Quit Armor! Treat the experience as an opportunity to learn. (1) What was the mistake? (2) Why did it happen? (3) How could it have been prevented? (4) How can I do better next time? Do not look at the fail part of your slip, look at the benefit ... the benefit being what you learned from it. Then use that knowledge. We all make mistakes, fear of failure doesn't have to cripple you. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You are awesome Skidoo ... believe it! Do not doubt yourself. Do what you have been doing over the last month and a half. Do not discredit all the days that you got it right. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 32 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 975 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $128 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 24

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3368

Janet ... try this ... see if it works for you: Instead of feeling guilty which to me feels really harsh, at least for me it has in the past. I suggest allowing yourself to feel disappointed in your behavior. By labeling the behavior instead of yourself it helps for you to be able to rise above it faster in my opinion. I think that guilt can sometimes keep us from moving forward in a positive direction ... because it tries to throw us in a pity pot. It may just be a play on words ... but I find that it helps. I hope it helps you. I am glad to see the change in outlook/perspective/attitude in your last post. :) Hang in there. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 32 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 978 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $128 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38

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17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8760

Skidoo, Glad to hear your going to continue to maintain your quit. Take the lessons learned with you. This is a new skill you're learning and only practice makes perfect before you get it right. Keep persevering, Danielle __________________________________________ The ACS Support Team

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 334

Good Afternoon everyone! I'm feeling so much better today. Feeling positive again, and trying to put Monday night in the vault - while still learning from my mistake. It's SOOOOOO much better to let the guilt go - learn from my mistake - and MOVE ON! I have decided to keep my stats instead of starting over. I worked way too hard for those 43 days to let one night and one smoke send me back to square one. I'll tell you something though, I do have pretty strong cravings today. ENTIRELY MY FAULT> that little demon man is in my head but I squach him like a bug. If I had a magic wand I would turn back time and not do it. It just simply was not worth it! I'm going to spread the word to anyone who is thinking about it - HOpe you are reading this Sunflower! It really really doesnt make it any better. On the contrary, it makes it worse. Plus you now have guilt to deal with. So please please anyone who thinks having a drag is the answer DONT DO IT! Keep your quit! We are stronger than this addiction. Cheers, Skidoo [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 44 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 535 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $242 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 334

Yes. It's true. Last night I went to a staff function at my husbands work. I had to many glasses of wine. I went outside. I had an entire cigarette. I am so angry at myself today. Not to mention how crappy I feel physically. In my head I'm telling myself that it is but a minor bump in the road - BUT - in my heart I have REALLY REALLY let myself down. I can not smoke. I have quit!!! My mother and my father both died of smoking related cancers. I can not follow in their foot steps. I have children who need me. A husband who loves me. I feel sick. Skidoo

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 334

I sent my kids to the neighbours and went back to bed for a couple of hours. Now that my head is a bit less foggy I want to thank all of you for the incredible support you've sent my way. I really needed to read all of those posts. And I read them - many times. Mama your story about the man and the stone, it has been printed out and is sitting beside me as I type this. Thank you for it, I need to build my window. I'm going to take all of the advice and cut myself some slack. Last night I learned that it is way to early in my quit to drink. Period. End of Story!!!!!! I can not be trusted around cigarettes if I have been drinking. I need this quit. I have earned this quit. I have spent the last 6 weeks making this quit happen and I'm not going to stop now!! DO YOU HEAR ME NICODEMON - I'M GOING TO WIN!!!!! SO SCREW OFF! There. I feel so much better after yelling that! I still feel guilty, but that will pass with time. THank you again everyone. You really are the best group of quitters around, and I'm proud to know all of you. Janet [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 43 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 523 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $236.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 334

Thanks for the encouragement Nascar - but I have been quit for 6 weeks. What does that say about me????? Am I not ready? Or am I just stupid? I'm really not sure this morning. Leaning towards stupid. Skidoo [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 43 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 521 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $236.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 46

17 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1070

Be calm and don't smoke anymore. You slipped, it will be okay. Don't let it happen again! If you get down on yourself you will lose your confidence, and you need that! I originally quit on 4/14 but slipped about day 3 and felt horrible. I continued to smoke until May 15th, gave me some preparation time. You can do this, just get back up and do it! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 29 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 588 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $130.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1

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