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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2508

Hi and Welcome! This program can really help..It helped me and I never would of thought it could..but it did and I am finding out who I really am and what makes me happy in life..Life can be good...

jdoe...

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Welcome 14lm... you have come to a good site to help with your depression. As a stay-at-home grandma with an 18 mth old baby, I can relate to your experience with a husband who doesn't quite "get it" and also having little contact with anyone except your dh and baby. The loneliness certainly makes depression harder to overcome. The great thing about this site is that those of us here DO understand and can relate to much of what you feel. You aren't crazy and two weeks is not long enough to see any change ... if you had broken your leg would he expect you to be back to work in two weeks time? Well, depression is even more damaging... more draining than a broken limb... I have experienced both ... so I do sorta know what I'm talking about.

The suggestion to have dh (dear hubby :) look at this site is a good one that has worked for some members. For me... I need a place where he isn't constantly looking over my shoulder. I guess that maybe isn't the best way... but it sure helps me to vent about him from time to time and get some constructive suggestions for how to deal with a family member who doesn't understand. I have tried to educate family members about my predicament... but they mostly seem to ignore or deny what I am going through and I really like having a safe place to go where ppl do understand and don't avoid talking about such things.

Sorry so long winded today

I find it hard to be succinct after a day with the baby ... I just think you should know that YOU realizing you need help is the most important thing toward your success on this healing journey. Stick with it... stick with us... work the sessions... do the homework... ask any questions or for support or just vent whenever you need to. We are here to listen and encourage. It can get better!

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1853

Hi 14lm1013,

I'm sorry to hear you are not being well supported by your husband during this time.

I wonder if showing him this website will help him better understand your situation? Realizing that you are not alone in this and that others have gone through similar experiences may help him reframe his beliefs about depression.

As Ashley said, we're here to help you through this.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2

thank u for the kind reply..Its nice to have some support and know that Im not going crazy. Im always just around only my husband besides my baby and he keeps putting me down. When I wasnt going to a therapist he would always put me down and say I need help so now Im finally going to a therapist and taking this course and it is still not enough, he says im not trying hard enough because he doesnt see a drastic change in me (its only been close to 2 weeks) and he says he doesnt believe i can do it because its been so long and that everything is my fault...I find myself trying to avoid him as much as possible so I dont have to hear those things and feel worse..

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Welcome 14lm1013,

I'm sorry to hear you do not have the support you need right now. Lean on us and we will help you through.

Unfortunately many people do not understand Depression and are ignorant to what it entails. Physical symptoms are a part of depression, as well as the fatigue. Remember this depression is not you; you have nothing to feel ashamed of.

How have you talked to your husband about how you feel? Perhaps give him some information on what Depression is? Show him the site? Take him with you to your next doctors appointment? How do you think you could convey to him how important it is to you that he does not blame you for the disorder you have.

In the mean time start with the program. It is a lot of work but if you put the work in you will see results. We will help you through it every step of the way.

Keep posting! I look forward to reading more from you.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2

I am new to these kind of discussion boards but I thought I would give it a try...I have been going through depression for about I'd say 2 years or so..It's been up and down. I have been suffering from anxiety and panic attacks as well, which can be so frustrating because it get's in the way of me trying to live my life..I finally opened my eyes and realized that I do need help, and I cant beat this on my own. I dont really have a great support system around me...My husband doesnt understand depression and tells me to just snap out of it..I think he has just had enough of me and is so tired of my depression. Depression has caused alot of damage in our relationship. I started going to a therapist once a week as well..I just really want to fight this and enjoy life again and be able to have energy to play with my baby. Being depressed I have no energy to do anything I feel so fatigue all the time. My husband doesnt think depression can cause physical symptoms and takes this as being "lazy", so being around people close to me just puts me down more since no body understands or even trys to. I feel like I have these expectations from everyone around me to be how I used to be, but it has been so long that I have been in depression that I think I need to re discover myself and stop trying to compare who i was then to now because that doesnt do anything good for me. I just really want to fight this, its just so hard to be around people who don't understand....

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