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cvdeb, I am sorry to hear about your son (Please keep us posted).  That has to be a tremendous amount of stress, add your job situation, your dad's health (Please keep us posted), and THE step-mother and you've got a full plate.  I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers (know people believe differently than I do, I respect that, no offense intended). 
 
I think you've handled the situation appropriately. You've taken the dog, made sure he is taken care of  - obviously very well, if he's sleeping at your feet (awww).  Anyway,  you handle the step-mother day by day.  And don't let her distract you from your dad and his well-being.  Don't project (she won't let you see him).  lol, I'm telling someone else this in my current state.  I am reading this saying, listen to yourself.
 
Anyway, matter at hand, take a step back, prioritize and breathe deeply.  You are doing good with all that is going on!  Hang in there.
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She flipped out.  Told me that I would kill my dad if he knew I took the dog, threatened to never let me see my dad again if we (me, mom, and my sister) didn't kill the dog.  In the meantime, she bought a little shiztzu that she's bought little outfits for. 
 
She hasn't fed this dog my dad loves since he's been hospitalized.  I think she was hoping he'd die.
 At first, she called my mom crying saying that she loved the dog so much that she couldn't handle putting him to sleep.  When my mom picked up the dog, he was seriously neglected and we decided to take him to the vet for an evaluation.  He's old, but he's fine and it was decided that he would live with me.  When my sister visited my dad later, dad's girlfriend told her (as she was panicking more and more about her decision), that she had planned on telling dad that my mom had stolen the dog for no good reason.  That he was alive, and living with my mom.  So gross that it leaves my head spinning.  She figured that she'd never have to take my dad to visit my mom, but didn't count on the fact that he and I still see each other.
 
Horrible day. 
 
I'm breathing.  I keep breathing.  I'm not going anywhere.  I apologize for recounting ridiculousness.  I'm not big on recounting dumb details but more talking about process.  The nut version is that I'm feeling very clear, have made the right decisions in lots of different areas, and am really getting better.  And I have a beautiful, clean, pure bred golden lab (who happens to be 15 and a little scared), sleeping peacefully at my feet.  
 
Next...... what in the world do I tell my dad when and if he gets to come home?  Evil step mom was planning on telling her my mom kidnapped him.  Evil step mom takes complete care of my dad for which I'm grateful and I'm worried that she is so hell bent on wiping out any memory of my mom, that she will try and keep his children away if I don't comply.  But we already decided not to comply because my dad   LOVES this dog. 
 
God.  Advice anyone??????
 
 
14 years ago 0 102 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
First, let me say that my antidepressant has finally kicked in (thank God) because life has suddenly become very challenging and I don't know how I would have handled everything had I not been depressed first, and gotten treatment.  The universe was preparing me to deal with this stuff???? Don't know.
 
My depression started in October.
 
I don't think I've mentioned that my very healthy 20 year-old became extremely ill in November with an irregular heart-beat, and really bad stomach problems.  He was in college in San Francisco, but had to come home so we could figure out what is going on.  We have been to a lot of specialists, and I'm seeing him deteriorate while each test is yielding no results.  He's been drug tested-- not that.  Very wonderful guy.  All the experts agree that there is something wrong, but no one knows why.  More tests pending.
 
Lots of job shifting things that I've already told you guys about.
 
My dad went into the hospital for internal bleeding and was diagnosed with a stomach aneurism.  He stablized after a blood transfusion and went home.
 
I went away this weekend with boyfriend to his ranch, and got a call Saturday night that dad was rushed by ambulance to the hospital.  He was diagnosed with congestive heart failure (for those of you not familiar, this is really really not good).  So I've been at the hospital a lot.  Monday, a friend called to tell me that a long time childhood friend was killed in a car accident.
 
In the meantime, dad's girlfriend called and asked me to pick up dad's dog and have him put down.  She has always hated the dog, but told me that he was too much trouble and unable to get up and walk.  That dad and she couldn't care for him anymore.  That the dog was really old and sick.  I picked him up and he smelled so bad that I thought I was going to be sick.  I took him to the vet for an assessment, and other than being 15 and having a tumor on his toe, he was in good health.  So I brought him home.  Will continue in a minute after I put little guy to bed.
 
 

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