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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 50

Lance,

I understand how troubling it is to start all these tasks only to not finish any of them. I would strongly suggest working with one thing at a time. Thats all your mind can handle right now. Start one thing and finish it. However big or small. When you do accomplish something, take the time to pat yourself on the back and recognize that you have made very good progress. Don't lose hope. Every little thing counts.

The problem with taking on too many tasks at once for people with bipolar disorder id that our minds are all jumbled, upside down, inside out and screwed up that we can't really fully concentrate on any one thing. Our interests often change with the wind, as well as our moods. Try to find one hobby that you enjoy the best and stick with that for now.

I know its been very hard for you. Losing your family and friends must truly have been devastating. I understand how that can feel. I too have lost touch with some of my family and friends. It certainly doesn't help to make your condition any better. But, its up to you to make it better. You and only you. You, alone, can improve your life. First work on getting yourself back on track and allow yourself to get to a point where you are stabilizing well. Then, when you feel you have worked back to being "you" again, then go and see your family and friends. Tell them what you have been going through. Share with them all the progress you have made....and tell them that you understand you screwed up, but you vow to do everything in your power to never hurt them so badly again. Remind them that this is a process and you are committed to staying well.

I hope you get your family, friends and life back. I genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, wish good things for you and your life. Good luck.

God bless,

Fallabe12

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Josie makes a great point! I think journaling is a great idea as well. Many members journal on their blogs. That is an option.

You sound frustrated with past events surrounding work. Now is a great time to take action to prevent work taking over your life again. You can prepare before you start working to insure that this time you will maintain a healthy balance. This time is your second chance at learning how to maintain a balanced life. Do you think taking that perspective may help?

I am glad you would like to commit to the walk through. I have opened thread: "The Depression Centre is now offering Group Program Walkthroughs!" Under "Group Program Discovery." Take a look. Session one discussion has just started. You are right on time!

All members reading feel free to commit as well.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Lance, sounds like you are on track by committing to a program. lol @ farmville - I have to steer clear as ashley said they just suck up time. I hope that you keep the journal and do the mood tracker, i do think it will help your therapist and pdoc. Hang in there - we are listening.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

I know I have said this before, but do keep a journal. This can pinpoint areas that you need assistance on and you can track your medication and how you are feeling daily. This will give your doctor a better assessment to help you. Have you looked for other employment? Something to get you out there again and something to occupy some of your time?

Josie, Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

Oh ya, meds and mood. Still need more time, I see the pdoc next week. Lithium level has been low and they never change it> So IDK.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

Id like that, i also need to be working on the panic program better as well. My living situation is at best temporary. No space or anything to do anything. I need to figure out what I enjoy. For so long it was nothing, I just worked all the time for many years, went home watched TV went back. Yes I consumed myself with it, hid there, whatever. Why? maybe I didnt know how to deal with life, people. Making money was good too, but I was salary. I only got extra from doing the caterings, so didnt always have to work extra hours. I wish I knew, maybe had I not been such a good employee for a business that closed and left me high and dry after 30 yrs, and I had spent more time with my family, I would still have a family. I just thought working a lot was right. So now Im not working and have no family.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11214

Have you had any luck with medication stabilizing your mood?

Those hobbies sound nice. One thing I used to do is make my room my home, even though you can't take pride in the entire home, you can your room. You can personalize it and even include lots of plants if gardening was you thing. But that is me personally, it might be good for you to think about things you might take interest in. It will give you something to enjoy other than work, I know you consumed yourself with work before and I think you would want to avoid that this time. Would I be correct in saying that?

I would stick with one program at a time and set goals for yourself. One way to keep yourself motivated is follow along with our group program walk through. It would make you accountable for completing the sessions as you will have to discuss it with other group members. If you are interested let me know and I will open up the commitment page.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

Is that a good thing? Being down and creating a plan, I guess. Why dont I stick to it though. I know losing interest happens, then when things are going better I slack off? Get lazy? IDK

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

I am finding that its hard for me to follow the program right. One problem is I am starting more than one, I lose interest and dont follow it. I have to many issues right now.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

part of the bipolar thing. Im up Im down. I just would like to stay in the middle. Its like all I can do to get out of bed, then I dont want to go back. Weird.

When I was younger I was big in to photography, bat havnt been for a long time. I have real nice camera equipt. too but my daughter has it, she is taking photography this year.

I didnt really have anything I enjoyed, my hobby was seeing what I could do to make other think highly of me.

I had my homeowner chores I took pride in, yard etc, but now thats all gone. My beautiful 3,000 sq ft home, and nice yard all gone. So I dont know what I enjoy, hopefully in 8 days I will be on the road to a job I enjoy.

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