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another welcome from me to the support group. We'll take the intro later. Sounds like you have a lot going on. Communication is a must. You indicated you told him to leave 2x this month. Are you sure he will follow through. I also advise you to consult an attorney first and pursue monetary compensation for yourself and livelihood. Do NOT leave your family home. There may be programs to help you get repairs for your home and utility assistance under the circumstances. If he is determined to leave - let him be the one to leave.
I posted this to another person - but where are you from US or other country. Are you aware of resources in your country, area, etc.
Welcome to the support group. Rose had some very good questions for you and they bear consideration. You have been together for a long time and over long periods we tend to take others for granted. Perhaps you have both done this.
Maybe you should talk about this instead of just letting it go with a note.
hello,
sorry you are in crisis mode - me and my big mouth would tell you to stay where you are, talk to a lawyer and make sure you get alimony to cover your utilities, etc. get rid of nonessentials, clean your house - have a garage sale. give away pets you can't care for to good homes and hang in there! are you sure you really want him to go? have you tried counseling? 44 years is a long time and lots invested. could your marriage be turned around? do you have any pleasant things in common any more? kids? if he does go, you could also consider a roommate, although that could be tough, but would cut most of your expenses in 1/2.
Husband left me a note on the table this a.m. said he was moving out by Oct. 1, because he can't stand to live with me anymore. What do I do now? I don't want to leave my house, as it is the one I grew up in. I have 3 dogs and 3 cats (one very sick at the moment) and I only work part time, minimum wage. No family or friends to turn to. House is paid for, but utilities and repairs will be beyond my means.
Granted, we had been either not speaking or arguing....either one or the other, and last night I was extremely stressed over my cat, who had lost control of her hind legs....and I had told him that he should just get out. (Second time this month I have told him that.) So now he's going and I'm not sure what my next move should be. Can anyone help? We have been "married" for 44 years, and I should have left years ago. I am tempted to pack a bag and leave today, but could not take my pets with me. Not sure where to turn......
PS> This is my first post to this board. I should have started with the introduce myself part...but right now, I dont think I have the strength to do so.
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