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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Diva,

You are always helpful which is why I wanted you to look at Kim's thread. You have such a caring way about you and I figured she could use some support so I wanted to clue you in that it was there. Going to look at your "My Cat" thread now.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 538

Hello Mom of 3,

I wrote in the My cat thread to answer you question on how I am doing. I also answered your tired and out of hope thread. I have also answered Kim's thread. I do not know how helpful I was to any of you but there it is. I am glad that you are hanging in there. Please keep me posted!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Diva,

I'm hanging in there as usual. I don't have much to say tonight and am tired. Please look at the new thread by Kim under this forum. Maybe you can give her some support.

How are you doing?

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 538

Hiya Mom of 3,

Was wondering how you are doing. Marriage is a tough thing and it is an ongoing process. It can feel so overhwelming! I hope you are doing well. Hope to hear from you!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Thank you for your input and support Faryal. I actually have been writing some things down, especially when I'm really having problems dealing. I have noticed that doing this does help me to organize my thoughts better. Now that you have mentioned it I realize that when I have written down my thoughts and feelings I am able to express them better than if I do so without doing that first.

My biggest problem is that when I'm really hurting I can't always put it into words and what I write seems generalized if you read it. I do remember my pain when I read back over it. Sometimes I don't write things down immediately because I can't quantify or even qualify my thoughts or feelings at the moment. I don't know if this is correct or helpful, but it's all I can do sometimes.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 823

Hi Mom of 3, What you are going through sounds overwhelming. I understand it may be harder to do than say, but try to focus on climbing the mountain a little at a time rather than trying to see the top which may be too big to handle at the moment. You are doing really well because despite the situation, you are able to see some of the glimmer and appreciate that. Also, don't be afraid to express to your husband that you know he is wonderful and very important to you...............he needs to hear this also. Sometimes when you are feeling hurt or angry it might be a good idea to write down all your feelings and thoughts before communicating them verbally to your husband. This way you can release all the anger on paper first and it also helps to organize your thoughts better. Good luck and keep us posted! Faryal, Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Breanne & Diva,

Thank you both for your support. You're right the changes are small but I must remember them and expand on them. At the same time I'm still afraid to get my hopes up. I feel like I'm climbing sheer rock and am unable to see the top of the thing.

I am learning alot about myself. Some good and some bad. Of course I tend to focus more on the negative but am realizing some positives, like maybe I'm tougher than I thought. I am also proud of myself for trying to see his side of things and take his feelings into account even when mine are so hurt. I have realized how important he is to me and how sorry I am that I have hurt him. He really is a wonderful man even if he doesn't happen to be perfect.

I am having a little trouble with when to know that I am not being selfish by asserting what does hurt me and how to do so in a less confrontational way. Friday night I think I was right to assert my feelings and I must have been because he took it much better than I thought.

And so I continue on, I'm thankful that I have people to run this stuff by, it's helped me get this far and there were days that I didn't think I'd be even this far along. So thanks to all

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

Mom of 3,

It is fantastic that you are noticing a few small changes. Don't be afraid to get your hopes up. Focus on the positive changes that you are noticing, so that these changes will be preserved.

How was the rest of your weekend?

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 538

We both will hang in there :)

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi Diva,

Posted under the other title so I won't repeat here. Here's hoping we both catch a break and get some enlightenment on our issues. Hang in there!

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