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Hi lovelybones, Thank you for sharing with me. It helps. I find myself in a strange situation when I interact with people. Friends tend to keep me at a distance when they find out how negative I am about everyone and everything. Some are helpful, at first, but I feel them slowly creat a space. Some do want to help me, but I push them away and when they do back away, I feel abandoned. Can't win either way can they?! A moment ago, I just went through the emotion of anger and disapointment. They should not have acted this way and they only acted this way because of this and that....huh..stop shoulding.(Im thinking out loud) I had to use the thought record to purge it out of me. It helped a bit. Back to the topic, I agree with you LB, we have to love ourselves first before we can love others and be loved by others. Process is not easy but I am slowly getting there.
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Hi Moody I know what you mean. I haven't had a real friend in years, surely because I isolate myself because I'm terrified that people will see the real me and won't want to be around me. I don't even want to be around me. I know that being isolated just makes me feel worse but it's been so long I don't think I even know how to make friends anymore. Trusting people is hard for me. What is your relationship like with the people you went out with? Are they close enough that you could be honest with them, let them know that you'd like to go out with them but just aren't up to it? They might surprise you and become a source of support... I've been trying to be more honest with the people around me, not hiding my faults or problems so much and a couple of times I've been surprised at how non-judgemental they have been. Perhaps our fears of rejection make us assume that no one could possibly like us when that really isn't true. I mean, all the people there is in the world and not one of them could like us or accept us? Doesn't seem statistically possible. Like they say, you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. Maybe we should work on learning to like ourselves before we worry about other people liking us.
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Moody, Don't be so hard on yourself. It's time to start challenging those negative thought patterns! We also encourage you to keep working through the program. Session 11 focuses particularly on your relationships with others. Danielle, Bilingual Support Specialist
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I have been trying to hang out with more people other than my boyfriend but the results made me feel more depressed. It feels like everyone is ignoring me or not answering my phonecalls when I call them or message them. I am pretty anti social so it doesn't help when i am continually rejected. I know I should not take it personally but I know I am not the most pleasant person to be around. I think its better for me not to hang out with people anymore since I end up feeling worse. Hopefully, I can handle this. I want to be more optimistic and that this feeling of isolation will pass. I hate being so pessimistic and negative. Nobody likes being around a person like that do they?

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