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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

I quit smoking today

well done in your decision to quite ojmas!!! it's not easy but you'll get there, one hour and one crave at a time! As Helena said, be kind and patient with yourself, when the doubts start, throw out all the arguments you have raging inside your head about how "this is not the right time etc" and be peaceful and calm, you'll get there. Come back here often and spend some time reading all the older posts, they really helped me to realise that I'm no different to anyone else and I can do this too. Good luck! stay in touch.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

I Blew It

Peteg get back on your horse and start riding again! They say we learn a little more from every quit we do, I agree with that, you're now armed with everything you need so go for it!!! keep the faith!!

Lula

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Hi all, I've got the annual Xmas office party tonight and I'm a little concerned, it's going to be full of people smoking, drinking and dancing and I'm thinking oh my, this time last year I was one of them! Anyone got any ideas? It's a full blown test, this is a biggie!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

It wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be!! There were a few times where the old "oooh I could do with a ciggie" came to me but to be honest I just stayed away from the groups of smokers and got on with enjoying my night. Yes I did leave earlier than planned but what the heck....I didn't smoke!!! here's to the next one!!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Hi does anyone have the same problem? Yes it's Christmas, I've got people coming round for Christmas Eve dinner (it's a big deal here) and then for Christmas lunch, the problem is that out of the 12 people at least 7 of them smoke. The last 4 months I've asked anyone who came to visit to smoke in the kitchen, I had the windows wide open and extractor going so the smell didn't get to the rest of the house. The problem is that my kitchen is small and it's impossible for 7 of them to smoke in there, and to be honest I don't want them smoking in my house! I live in a flat so I would have to ask them to put on their coats and go down to the street. I tested the waters out a few days ago with a friend and the answer I got back was " oh God, you're not going to be one of "those ex-smokers" are you?" Meaning someone who suddenly starts waving their hands in front of their faces and becomes the "holier than thou" type. I explained that I'd only been stopped 4 months and it would be difficult for me.

I don't want to offend my guests but how do I get out of this one? I can just imagine the dirty looks and the big sighs and comments if I ask them to go downstairs. help!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Hi Natailie, Breather and Tiana, thanks so much for answering my "help"!

Yes Natalie, I live in Spain which is one of the last bastions of smoking, thank goodness the new law comes into effect on Jan 2nd which prohibits smoking in bars etc. It's not popular at all and we'll see how long it lasts! I took very much to heart yours and Breathers comments and after some thought decided to send a mail to my friends and family who are coming for dinner, I do it every year so it's nothing unusual but this time I added a PS, I basically said that our house was now a no smoking house in anticipation of the new law and that they were all free to smoke as much as they liked but in the street. I'm not going to put my quit in jeopardy for anyone or anything....I've worked too damn hard to get here! It's been 4 months now and I'm still not smoking and I intend to stay that way! I've had my acceptance mails but no-one has mentioned not being able to smoke! It'll be interesting to see what happens on Xmas Eve and Xmas day......I'll keep you all posted!

thanks guys

love

Lula

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Hi everyone, I'd like to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy and No Smoking New Year!!

I hope you all have a wonderful time with family and friends.

I'd also like to dedicate a little thinking time to those who are no longer with us......this is for you mum....see...I finally did it....it's been 4 months with no ciggies...and you thought I could never do it!!

I'm sending some special thoughts to Natalie, Breather and of course to the educators!!!

Also to those of you who are still in the thought process of quitting, think about it then do it! Jump in, you'll find you can swim! You might find you'll swallow some water along the way but you won't drown! Good luck!

Merry Christmas everyone!!!!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Didn't smoke!!!!! didn't smoke!! I'm so proud of myself....mind you I did find it a little difficult, more than I expected. I guess it was just past memories but I found myself wanting to sit down with a nice glass of wine and a ciggie for a break. I had to work extra hard to get rid of all the chatter in my head, it has proven to me once and for all that I can never ever let down my guard. I honestly thought I'd cope with no problems at all but it wasn't as easy as I expected.

The dinner and the lunch went really well, people kept disappearing to the street to smoke but nothing was mentioned at all...not even how I was doing etc but I don't care because they could see that I carried on with my life as normal, that life can only be good not smoking!

Staying calm is good advice, it's so easy to panic, I've been on the verge a few times and the stopping, thinking, deep breathing and not wanting to throw it all away keeps me sane in those moments of madness when it would be so easy to give in.

Like you Breather I lost someone close to me too, it was my mum, she died 2 years ago of pneumonia. She was a heavy smoker and refused to give up saying she was too old to stop now. The sad thing is that she stopped 2 weeks before she died but only because she couldn't phsyically smoke, her body just couldn't take it. I'm doing this quit for me but somewhere in there is my mum, and I want to take care of myself so that my family and friends can continue to have my company as Natalie so rightly pointed out. I really want to do this.

I hope you all had a wonderful Xmas, I hope Santa brought some nice presents but the nicest present I got this year was the extra days added onto my life because I've quit.....good present eh!

love to all

Lula

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Hi everyone how's it going?

I'm looking forward to a nice quiet New Year's Eve, we'll be on our own so it'll be nice to only have to worry about eating the 12 grapes on the stroke of midnight! It'll be my first smoke free New Year for over 35 years and I'm staying strong.

A curious thing happened yesterday, I got a call from my brother in law and he's quitting on Saturday. He said that he'd come to the conclusion that if I could stop then anyone in the world could! He said everyone was amazed but that I still looked "weird" without a ciggie in my hand! I actually think the opposite, if I imagine myself with a ciggie in my hand I think I look weird! Anyway he's coming for coffee later so we'll be having a chat. I looked at my diary that I kep for the first 3 weeks and it was good to refresh my memory and also to see how far I'd come.

I'd like to wish everyone a happy, healthy and smoke free 2011.

see ya all soon!

Lula

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 57

Messed up again

Hi there, well, my first smoke free New Year, quite an achievement for me. I didn't find it a problem, a little thought now and again but nothing major at all.

Today is also the day when the new no-smoking law comes into effect in Spain, no bars etc, the reaction has been fierce but I expect it'll die down in a couple of days. It'll be so nice to have a coffee in a café and not have to worry, I also think it'll help a lot of people who want to give up.

My brother in law stopped smoking yesterday and logically he's finding it tough, he's going the cold turkey route (the same as me) and he's struggling but we've spoken this morning and he's a little calmer. It's a shame that SSC isn't in Spanish too, (he doesn't speak English) but I'm translating for him and we're going to work on his steps later. It's good for me too, a good reflection time.

I don't smoke, that's my new answer to anyone who offers me one! Only a short time ago I was very hesitant with my answer, it was like I didn't consider myself to be a non-smoker but now I'm starting to feel different, I feel more sure of myself and a little more confident.....good eh!

have a good no-smoking week!!

Lula

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