I was just able to check in and saw your post. I can see that these questions are understandably very overwhelming. Counselling sounds like an excellent place to address a lot of the feelings you have. Good for you for getting on top of that so quickly!
We will be right here to support you whenever you need us. When you are able to take a look at those questions start a thread and we can work through them together.
Keep posting regarding what you are going through and I will be sure to be easier on the questions
Happy New Year, Snaphu. I just want to you to know that I am thinking about you and praying for you. It just gets so hard sometimes, doesn't it? Do something just for you today--even if it's just a little something. You deserve it. Hang in there!
Good, honest answers. It looks like you have your first goal to focus on. If you resolve the issue that is making you stuck (the alcohol) you can then begin to focus on other areas in your life. Right now focus on cutting back on alcohol. What will motivate you to keep this goal on track?
The guilt from thinking you destroyed your life and your children's lives could be very debilitating. It sounds like this is very painful for you to think about. Addressing the guilt and pain while starting to get control of an addiction is a big part of the healing. If you feel you need extra support to discuss these feelings I encourage you to seek counseling. Sometimes just talking it out with a professional helps to put things in perspective and get you "unstuck".
In the mean time we can help you with moving forward if you are ready. Are you ready to put the guilt aside and start making your life the life you want?
To help you think let's imagine for a minute that you do take control of your drinking and you start living in line with your values. zin 5 years, what will your life look like? Who will you be? How will your children be with you? If you could talk to this future self what would you ask? What do you think this future self would say to you? What advice would this non drinking future self give you?
What is priority for you to look at now? What issue is holding you back?
When it comes to your past; what have you learned from your failures? What gift did you gain from them? Take some time with these questions as the gift may be hard to find at first.
very appropriate timing for the post! but scary! I am at the very bottom (well close enough)... I am 58 yrs old, I have no job, no security and my health isn't good. If my husband was to die, I'd be homeless. AND his health isn't good at all (he's had strokes, etc) I am extremely panicked and stressed about my life and life in general, I'm frozen and overwhelmed. I feel like I'm stuck...
I am definitely
NOT "living in line with your values and beliefs?"
I am NOT "the person you want to be?"
Ashley stated that: "We are all a work in progress. It is important to reflect and examine along the way to ensure our priorities are where they should be."
I'm sooo depressed about my failures in life, I dwell on them 24/7... I can't move forward or visualize a future at all
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