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13 years ago 0 13 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Alex!
 
It's good to see you so motivated! I relate to what you say about the binges... I fell like there was no way out of it. I'm now on day 17 so there is hope, if you to, stick to your guns!!! Take this one day at a time and use the tools on AHC to get through your hard times. Writing my blog really helps me because you can say how you feel and others can give you words of advice.
 
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Thank you all for your kind words of inspiration. I am feeling very positive about my decision!
13 years ago 0 23 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Alex,
 
Happy to hear that you want to make a change. Good for you. I new that if i started i wouldnt stop. I started 12 years ago, because i had started doing panic attacks and it scared me so much that i started drinking to drown my mind so that i wouldnt panic, i am on meds for anxiety since, but the habit had stayed with me, i have tried and had relapse, but i decided that this time is for real, lost a lot of friends, wasnt motivated and so on, i chose to stop all together because i know that just taking one doesnt work and i just go back to my old habits. One thing that i find helps me is that i made a sheet saying all the reason why i dont want to drink anymore, all the problems it caused me and after on the sheet is how i feel now that i am not drinking anymore, and i have stuck that right beside my bed, so i read it every morning and everynight  when i go to bed, just so that i dont forget all the reasons for my quitting, and this is really helping me this time. I wish i had done that before, because i found that after a while i kind of forgot and that is when i would give in to one drink. Wish you all the luck
 

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Enjoy Perrier - you are soooo on the right track.  I find Fresca is quite nice.  Good luck!

13 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
thinking about what I might say when someone offers me a drink.

I drank because my mind tricked me into thinking that i could handle a drink or two. Nobody forced me into drinking. Looking at my past, toward the end, i became a lone wolf. Selfish to the core. Would not even go to places where there were no booze. And talk about triggers: Food Store, Gas Stations Package stores...everywhere but then I had to realize that my mind was the trigger. 
13 years ago 0 31 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Alex
I completely relate to what you said about going with the alcohol for several days, but then when I do have a drink (as I feel I deserve it after abstaining for so long), I end up drinking more than I planned to. And then it is not unusual for me to drink for the next 3 days. I am currently having a few days where I am not drinking (and wow I feel so much better!). I have found some of the tools in the toolbox helpful eg thinking about what I might say when someone offers me a drink. I play it through in my head until it starts to feel normal (I'm thinking that it gives me a better chance of actually saying no to a drink).
This has obviously been a very difficult number of years that you've experienced. I encourage you to check in often, all the time if you have to. Best wishes.

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Welcome Alex,
 
You have come to the right place.  We will help you get to where you want to be whether it be abstinence or cutting back.  Let's be careful here as abstinence is a personal choice, you need to decide what is right for you. 
 
Go through the forum to gain valuable information that will help you with your choice.  Also be sure to post here often.  We are here to support you!  What has motivated you to come here today?  What's different now?
 
 

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13 years ago 0 13 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Yes, I have tried cutting down or changing what I drink. I am ready to stop all together! Drinking is no longer an option for me. Bring on the Perrier!
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Welcome Alex. Do you realize that for an alcoholic, there is no concept of controlling the drinking and that the only solution is total abstinence?
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I am 30 years old and have been an alcoholic for 7 years. I started out as the life of the party with many friends and a zest for life. Throughout the years I have lost friendships and I have gone from the life of the party to the silly drunk girl that people laugh at. I am so tired of feeling ashamed. I am so tired of saying sorry. I need to make this change for me because I'm not sure I will survive much more of this. I have been sober for one day. I will often go the week without drinking but when I start I rarely stop and will go through binges that can last up to 3-4 days.

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