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18 years ago 0 1521 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Jess, Quitting is a long process, not a quick one. A person's brain and body organs undergo gradual change, from detoxing right through to forgetting you ever smoked, if such a thing is possible. Cravings are the brain's way of screaming at you for a fix. "Hey all is not right here! I need a smoke to feel like my old self again." And, finding that old familiar comfort zone is the urge of addiction. As time passes, the cravings diminish in intensity and frequency, until the urge to give in is no longer a problem. That takes months for most people. The headstrong and determined ones seem to have less of a battle, though they too have temptations to overcome. There is no easy way. Having a puff or two awakens the addiction process in a person all over again. It may be insidious, like feeling "Well I got through that without too much trouble. I'm doing all right." Junkie talk is easy and who has not justified having just one? A day later, the urge is back again to have another puff or two, or three or four. By week's end, the person has relapsed if they gave into those small urges. The brain will keep sending out calls for a fix, simple as that. That scenario need not be everyone's. Be aware that dealing with addiction requires total abstinence from the addictive substance. If you have had a slip, know that the urges will be there and junkie talk coupled with indecision will be easy. You need not give into it, however. Continue on your quit and call a halt to slipping. A slip can merely mean a setback in your learning curve, not a total disaster, depending on how you deal with it. Look upon it not as a failure, but as a warning on how easy it is to get right back into smoking again. Continue to stay positive and start each with a positive reward! Reward yourself somehow for every craving you overcome. Quitters have to learn to love themselves in a different way now. Quitting is a positive life change! Melanie _____________________ The SSC Support Team
18 years ago 0 893 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Jess, the mere fact that you have come here means that you are not a failure - nuff said! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/6/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 31 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 380 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �77.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
18 years ago 0 610 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Jess I have faith in you when you are ready you will quit. Practice make perfect. You haven't let this ash kicked down Polly [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/2/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 66 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,798 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $244.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
18 years ago 0 228 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks for putting it to me straight Golferman :) I think I needed that right now. Lady-You are always there with a lending hand I will be forever greatful. Polly - Nice to see you. I Plan on getting back on track. Red-oh my friend, what would I have done without you. You always put a smile on my face. Oin-thanks a bunch!!! Thanks Mel!!! I will get back on track!!! I have to reset my meter and start all over but it's worth it.. I will forever be an ash Kicker :)
18 years ago 0 228 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well it happened. I failed and smoked. I can't make any excuses. I know that all the stresses that I have been going through the past couple of days aren't going to be fixed with smoking but I didn't know what else to do. It's hard when you loose someone you love and don't know what to do with yourself. And I know that smoking won't bring them back but I am just beside myself and didn't know where else to turn. Maybe I should have come on here before I went and bought a pack (sunday night) but I didn't. I guess I didn't want to be reassured that everything will get better. Maybe I was just giving myself an out. I should have thrown the pack away because it was really gross smoking that first cigg and I got completly lightheaded but I didn't. It's sad that every bad time in my life I have looked towards smoking as a coping skill. And this time is no exception. I feel awefull about it because I was doing so good. But I also know that beating my self up over it won't make it any better. I know that my want to stop smoking is real I just need to make it a reality. I know that I will try again to stop again and soon I just wanted to say Sorry Ash Kickers I've failed you too. I just don't know what to do. :(
18 years ago 0 1079 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Jess. I'm sorry that you are going through a bad loss in your life right now. There is nothing for me to say about your quit because I know you are beating yourself up over this, and I wouldn't want to add to that hurt. Please don't be too hard on yourself. We are humans who make mistakes. Whenever you feel strong enough to try again, we will be here for you. [color=Red]redrosie[/color] From the movie.... It's a Wonderful Life: Remember, no man is a failure who has friends [IMG]http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e58/saggysac/emotions/hug.gif[/IMG] (or woman) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 67 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,622 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $556.1 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3
18 years ago 0 1079 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
YEAH JESS!!!! That's the spirit!! I'm so glad you have a positive attitude about this and are not giving up. I knew you weren't a quitter. Well, yes you are, but the good kind!! lol. You should feel so good about yourself right now. You made a lapse in judgement, you owned up to it and now you're movin' on. That is the very definition of a winner in my books. Hop back in the saddle again girl, and away we go!!! On to the next stage of this crazy, wonderful journey. [IMG]http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e58/saggysac/animals%20and%20characters/HORSE.gif[/IMG] [color=Red]redrosie[/color]
18 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Jess. The only way that you fail is if you give up. The fact that you are here and posting says that you are not ready to give up the fight for your life. Get rid of the cigarettes, get your coping skills in order and get right back to quitting. I assure you that the person you have disappointed the most is yourself. But you can fix that. Right here right now you can change that. Get rid of those nasty cigarettes and be proud of yourself for being quit again. You know you can do it. You also know that we are here for you. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, put your best foot forward and get on with the rest of your smoke free life. Freedom awaits you. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 251 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,032 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $878.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 10 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37
18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
That's the spirit Jess!!! Get back on this wagon, and we'll make sure you're in the middle so you don't fall off again. A lesson learned to never be repeated is not a mistake! Glad you're back at your quit! Crave the Quit! Bfs [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 132 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,321 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $435.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Jess, Ok, crying time is over. What's done is done. You know good and well that smoking does not make lifes miseries go away. It only adds to them. Dust yourself off and regroup. That and smoking are your only two options. And smoking, as an option, sucks. Best wishes. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 298 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,465 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $730.1 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 52 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25
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