Background: Amy and I were best friends from the time we were 9 until about 15. We went through a lot together, especially as pre-teens, with me struggling with depression and her with bi-polar. We were both cutters (funny coincidence there, eh?). She had a lot of problems with her family, and one summer she was staying with me for awhile. She was having a paricularly rough time, and I was doing my best to help her out. I was doing really well, and had almost completely stopped cutting, while she was probably at her worst. At one point doing her visit she wanted, even tried, to hurt herself in my presence. She got angry with me when I wouldn't let her. Maybe a week or so later (she wasn't staying with my family anymore) we got in a huge argument, which can basically be summed up by me accusing her of not participating in her therapy, and her calling me a bad and unsupportive friend. I realize that what I said may have been a little harsh, but my point of view was that if she wanted to get better badly enough, she could, since that's what I did. It also upset me a lot when she thought was being a bad friend for refusing to watch her hurt herself. We haven't spoken much since then...we saw each other a couple of times, but things never really clicked again.
Now, 4 years later, I still think about her often. I wonder how she is doing and what she's up to. If I wanted to get in contact with her it would be easy, via Facebook and through mutual friends we still have. As much as I would like to invite her back into my life I don't know if it would be a good idea. If she is still the way she was then I wouldn't be able to deal with her, and I would hate to say "Hey, let's be friends again...wait, nevermind, dealing with you is way too hard on me." What should I do? Should I drop her a line and let her know I still care about her? Should I try and rekindle our friendship? Or would it be healthiest to just let things be?
Thanks for your thoughts guys!