Ashley,
I believe there were several things that helped me stay in
control, the main one being; this hunting trip was planned well in advance and
I did not want to ruin it for my hunting partners or myself (we take our
hunting seriously). In addition, safety is always a big consideration, especially
when using firearms; alcohol just doesn’t belong there. Following a long tiring day of hunting, it’s
great to relax back at the cabin in the evening and enjoy a few drinks (if you
can keep it at a few).
I didn’t consider my actions as anything amazing, rather, I
felt somewhat disappointed in myself for not remaining AF. I didn’t feel like I had accomplished or conquered
anything by drinking responsibly. Sure,
I was able to maintain my priorities over alcohol on this particular trip but I
also know from my past history, that I can only moderate for a short while. This is precisely why I decided to go AF
again.
Nodrama,
I’m not sure if planning one day a month has any benefit. For me, I believe it would only result in
disappointment and a blow to self-confidence.
Stay Strong!
Swig
Hi ND,
Not that long ago I posted a similar query. AV was bargaining and I was attempting to strike a deal. We agreed on once a month where I could drink without abandon and I would drink alone. I didn’t want or need any eyes counting how many drinks I had. I didn’t want or need anyone to judge me. I just wanted to be left alone to satisfy my AV.
I did put it to the test but AV soon convinced me that once a week wouldn’t be so bad. After all, lots of people unwind after a long work week (although I’m essentially retired), so why couldn’t I? So, the deal was struck and I drank only one day a week…alone. It wasn’t long before my thoughts were consumed with just that one day. I made sure that I wouldn’t be disturbed that day with calls, appointments or any responsibilities whatsoever. I wanted to be just left alone with my booze. I then rationalized that maybe I should get two bottles of wine for that one day and just start a little earlier. After all, it was “my” one day and why not really let loose.
Thing was, I’d pass out before finishing both bottles but had gotten into the habit of taking whatever was left to bed with me. When I woke in the middle of the night, there it was and again, rationalize that it was part of my one day so would finish whatever was left. And so the ride began. Off to the liquor store in the morning to nurse my buzz for the rest of the weekend.
No matter how many times I’d try to convince myself that I could keep my binges under control, I would fail. I’ve spent this entire year attempting to do exactly what you are proposing. I now know that I can’t. I know if I start drinking it will, in short order escalate to drinking several times a week and all the misery that goes with it. I either stop completely as I have now or I drink.
ND, the only person that can make this call is you. You know yourself and whether you can keep your drinking to just one day a month. You also know whether you are kidding yourself.
The choice is yours,
TS