Hi Elizabeth.....he was so young, again I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't let the to drink get you down, I know how difficult it can be. I too had a slip this weekend and woke up Saturday with a hangover. I was so ticked at myself because I can't recall the last time I had a hangover prior to Saturday. Onward and upward as they say, I am not giving up, and I know you won't either. I won't let stressors or health issues bring me down. I went to a conference yesterday for work about stress on children and adults and how the school system needs to learn to work with the children and Learn to manage their own stress. The speaker talked about a website called life balance. I'm going to check it out, I think it could be helpful in learning how to recognize feelings and cope in ways other than suppressing the feelings with alcohol.
I am moving back to "dealing with urges" instead of "success stories" because this week, Week 8 since the fall into grace, is proving to be a difficult one. Don't want to be a fraud, so back I go.
Better, I don't know about nicotine addiction but it seems like it takes a while for any of these chemicals to be worked out of our bodies' systems. I think you are doing so well! What a lot you have had to contend with these past two years... work issues and your husband's health...
Thanks for asking about my brother. He was 40 and I am 55, so I was in high school when he was born and we spent a lot of time together until I started college. He lived with a rare cancer for 2 1/2 years. Wonderful memories, yes, I have those, and yes, we were close.
We all have our rough days, I've had a few rough days myself, but so far still haven't been drunk. I have been drinking, and struggling with trying to get it totally out of my life lately. I think quitting smoking has been a good thing for me, but it hasn't been easy. I refuse to give in to the addiction again, but to give up both habits at he same time was way too much. I haven't given up on wanting to stop drinking altogether, for now I'm moderating until I feel confident enough in myself to stop drinking too.
I'm sorry to hear that the grieving process has been more difficult for you lately. I can't imagine how it feels to lose a sibling. I hope in time you will focus in the wonderful memories you had with your brother. I don't know anything about him. Was he older or younger than you? Were you very close? How did he pass away? I'd understand if you're not up to telling me about him.
I really should start journaling too, maybe it'd help me through the rough spots.
Feeling strong. Glad to have a rough week behind me.
One thing I realized Friday-- it's actually getting harder instead of easier right now with the grieving process. It helped to understand that. Journaling is a really powerful thing.
Not so great last night. Too many triggers came up together and I drank. But even with one off day two weeks ago and last night, it still has been two months since I got drunk every night of the week. So every day I renew my commitment instead of just giving up and drinking every night like I was doing, not even trying to stop.
I'm encouraged by how well you are doing. And I think I will go for a walk now, per your suggestion and example. Onward.
Hi Elizabeth....yesterday was 2 weeks since I quit smoking and it's been going well. I'm slowly getting over the habit of hand to mouth. It gets easier every day. I still have to talk myself through it, but it's working for me. I remind myself how horrible it tastes and smells when I think to myself that I can have "just one." Just one never happens. I'm also feeling a huge improvement in my irregular heartbeat, and I'm sure my blood pressure has decreased.
As for the drinking, I'm doing well with that too. I talk through it by telling myself I don't need it, I need to go for a walk and if I have a drink, the walk won't happen. It feels good to get myself on track.
How are things going for you? Are you still moderating and finding time for quiet reflection?
Better, that's awesome! Quitting both seems like it might be easier, because they go together. I'm so impressed with you! How do you talk yourself through it?
Doing better here, thanks. I'm making more time for quiet reflection, and that is helping enormously.
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