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13 years ago 0 251 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi hors controle,
 
I am glad to hear from you and here that you are doing well. I agree with you the site, family and friends support has been a great help! Although in the beginning I had to sort of regain and build certain people's trust...it was well worth the effort!
 
Just curious to hear how you been doing and if you've tried any of my camping treats!
 
Ray

13 years ago 0 557 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Pearl,
 
I did go to a few AA meeting and just could not relateor recognize myself in the temoignage. Maybe I am not an alccolic but a very heavy out of control drinker since 20somethign years.
 
This site and my immediate surrounding ( friends, family) have helped me a lot. Using the tools  and coming every day to read and/or post my feelings was the best I ever did. It had to become a habit, just like drinking heavily had become a habit.
 
Try it and you'll see. Maybe it will work for you too. I sincerely believe that if we keep on trying, one day, we will succeed
13 years ago 0 3 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0

I don't like aa groups. Found most of the people not spiritual, very *****y and totally unconcerned with any problem that wasn't personal to them. I do like the essence of spirituality, though I don't think you will get it from the modern day aa group. I steer WELL clear of them! My experiences are many and the bad far outnumbers the good in them!

13 years ago 0 28 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Spirituality is a vey important part of life and should be a goal in our lives.  How we all got to where we are or why we are alcohalics is probably very different for each of us. We humans are not all the same and we need different  programs for sobriety.
 
Being raised in a religous environment yet being physially and mentally abused in my life left me with so many guilty feelings about myself. I had to learn to take care of myself to survive in this world - no one protectd me but me.  Mind you I am much orlder now and have a husband and foster family who think the world of me.  I am truly lucky.
 
I can't afford to have guilty feelings about my drinking and to let a higher power lead me to spirituality.
 
My needs (which I believe is also the case of many women) is a more positrive approach that helps me build my self asteem.
 
There is another sobriety program which is poorly supported by many organizations mostly for political reasons. 
 
The program is called Women for Sobriety (WFS) and has a "New Life Program" of 13 steps.  The 13th step is all about spirituality.
 
The down side is that this program is not available to men yet who is to say men don't also need this tye of reinforcement.
 
In summery, I believe that our society needs more that just AA. We need AA, WFS, this AHC and many other programs.
13 years ago 0 1562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
"I do NOT like AA groups for ME. Any thoughts?"
 
May we know Why? If you are an alcoholic, the only solution is spiritual. 
13 years ago 0 223 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Pearl,
 
Sounds that you have made a great step in coming on this forum and sharing.  I think that this attitude will help you along this program.
 
This site has a great wealth of tools to help you decide whether you are drinking too much.  It is not a cut an dry answer and, honestly, it is you that will have to make the call.
 
Our program has some tools to get you thinking about this.  Start by clicking on the "getting started" section which will walk you through a " Do I drink too much?" questionnaire.
 
From there you can continue with some of the other tools and components of the program.
 
As always, please share your feelings and insights as we are all here to help. 

Jason, Bilingual Health Educator
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Hi, everyone. I am brand new to this site. I am trying to get a handle on my drinking, which I am worried is becoming more out of my control. I went from drinking a glass or two of wine 2-3 times a week (to me this is "normal drinking") to now drinking an average of 2 drinks daily. I hide the amount from my husband. I usually drink alone and it triggers impulsive late night eating (salty, sweet, salty, sweet).
 
My drinking was beginning to concern me before 6/2007 somewhat but since then, my drinking has increased. I have suffered low grade chronic depression (dysthymic disorder) my whole life and am well-managed with medication after a significant number of years of mental health counseling. However, in 6/2007 my younger sister took her own life. She was always involved in using substances (variety, high quantity, frequency, high using peer group, husband was drug dealer, etc.). Before her suicide, she had just finished a successful round of Interferon treatment for HEP C (probably contracted through sharing needles for heroin use). I also have a brother who had a DUI earlier in life. I have a brother whose wife (and maybe him at this point) drinks a LOT daily. So there is a family history of alcohol and other substance abuse AND mental illness (bipolar, depression and anxiety).
 
I do NOT like AA groups for ME. Any thoughts?
13 years ago 0 50 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank god my program of recovery is portable. I take it everywhere I go. I don't avoid "triggerworld" because
they're lurking around every corner. I have the tools to work through them. Sobriety is Awesome!
 
Peace everyone!
 
Tallone
14 years ago 0 251 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi ewhite,
 
I hear ya, and I understand what you are saying. I was sort of the same way before, my drinking would really depend on my mood that day/night. I think if we are in one of those moods where we want to drink so much, we need to surround ourselves with good friends and let them know the mood we are in.. and hopefully do other things while everyone is drinking. Play games, go bowling, do STUFF! LAUGH, LAUGH, LAUGH! You know the belly-aching type laughter? 
 
Ray

14 years ago 0 3 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I think that it's great that you are able to control yourself and not drink in those types of situations. I guess I am struggling because I don't know what the triggers are that drive me to drink in excess. Most nights, I can go out and have a drink or 2 and go home and be fine. Other nights, I want to drink and drink until I pass out. I never plan it that way, it just happens. I guess I just need to pay more attention to how I am feeling on those types of nights.

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