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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

I totally agree with you that there are moderate drinkers here. And that is the reason i don't post replies to all the posts here. I try to raise the awareness of what alcoholism is. It is just not about drinking lot of alcohol.

There are 3 key components:

The obsession to drink gains momentum once you get into a vicious cycle. Then the in-sanity of an alcoholic mind that leads one to believe that he can handle one/two drinks after a long absence.

The Physical craving after we put one or two drinks in our body..

The restlessness/irritable/discontented/anxious/depressed in forced sobriety...

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 56

I'm new at this whole thing, but we can't assume everyone on this site is an "alcoholic" and moderation might be achievable for some. I have known true alcoholics, and I have (and am) known of simply inappropriate drinkers (volume) and there is a real difference. Those of us seeking moderation have found this site in order to help put us in "check" within ourselves, and seek the help of others. Those on the site that are seeking abstinence have a much different goal. That is why in most of my posts I do not write about moderation as my goal, but simply talk about methods to help the journey.

Those who might be "alcoholics" need a different plan and should not consider or be influenced by the thought of moderation; you are right foxman - it may help, but won't be the solution.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Unfortunately if one is an alcoholic, you could never be content with just one/two drink. There is something within the body of the alcoholic that compels them to keep drinking until they blackout/pass out. This is what the doctor calls it a phenomenon of Craving. Never occurs in a normal drinker.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

Athena,

It is incredible that what you are saying is exactly how I feel. My goal is the one or two and so many times that has lead me back into the downward spiral. For some reason I honestly believe that this time I CAN DO IT. I have found some inner strength, maybe from this site, that is making me want to stay on track, not get drunk and feel terrible about it in the morning. I keep reminding myself of the fact that it is so temporary to feel the good high from over drinking and the regrets and bad feeling last so much longer that it is just not worth it any more for me. Maybe you will get to that point also. I hope so. Can I just have 2???? That is my desire and I hope I am not so damaged from the alcohol, do not have that bad gene, have enough strength etc. to beat the urges. It is a day to day fight. I am not ready to give up. I am feeling so good after just 7 days, heading into my 8th and all I have had is 5 drinks in all that time. Wow, that would have been just a day starting out a week ago. Thanks for all your posts. It keeps me grounded and gives me hope.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

Tiana,

How do I know? Last week I was convinced that abstinence would be the only option for me. This week I would desperately like to belive that moderation is possible because I like to drink. I just have a real problem in stopping. I thought about allowing myself one glass of wine next time I am out for dinner (my problem is drinking alone at home). Then again, the last time I was able to quit for three days, it was the glass of wine in a restaurant that set me back to drinking again.

I thought about having the goal to abstain for one month. But then I am afraid that at the end of the month I will overcompensate by drinking way too much. Self control has never been a strength for me. Neither has making decisions.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Hi Athena,

I'm glad that you are able to see your success in your slip. That is really important in this stage. What allowed you to walk away instead of having more? What allowed you to reach 12 days? I'm wondering if your goal is moderation or abstaining?

Don't forget how strong you are!

Tiana, Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 325

You are so so strong. One swig and you stopped. I would be very proud of that. Do not belittle yourself as it was hard to stop since you really had the urge to drink. Just doing that one swig is what is important. If it takes a swig now and then, fine. Good for you girl. You go.........

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 8

Wow, Athena, I'm lucky if I go ONE day without a drink. You should feel proud that you put together twelve days. No one can take them away from you and, you know, your one swig was way better than the many drinks I had yesterday. I wish I had your resolve.

Sante

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 171

I am on day 12. Yesterday was brutal. My kids were both ratty all weekend. They are excited about Christmas coming but they don't know what to do with all that nervous energy. I was craving a drink so badly last night. I went down stairs to my mother's kitchen and got out the carton of wine she keeps in her kitchen. I looked at. I walked away. I wend back - took a giant swig and then put it away. Walked a way. Didin't drink mor - I know that that is good and that this was in mahy ways a success. But it scares me to think that it takes so much energy and will power to resist - how can I ever keep that up?

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