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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hi Lance,

I am sorry things didn't go exactly as you hoped. It is good that you are now aware of where you stand and you can start getting used to the idea. Focus on your goals and get back on track. Keep us posted, we are always here for you!

Samantha, Health Educator

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

Okay, so we are offically good friends. I dont have good friend feelings, but im sure I will get used to it. I wasnt even looking for a relationship. I was blindsided by all this. She said to date people so I can find someone. I dont want to "Date" I just happened to find her. Im just trying to get better with life, depression issues and get back on track. Im not opposed to not being alone, but not seeking. The HUG would still be nice!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

Well for staters it was never as it seemed to me. My situation really doesnt allow it. But I havnt had these kind of feelings since 1983 ( for real ) there is still a chance. Its still okay, but it might take a while. Feeling dont break legal ties, even if they have been broken for years. We still message and express our feelings and send our little hearts. It just feels like it wont happen. This can mess with your thinking and focus as well. I actually had a rough week, plus had two big job interviews with this on my mind. I wasnt out looking for this, it just happened, then when the feelings came, they took over. Hope that made sense.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

Hi Lance,

I am so sorry things didn't go as you hoped. I still think that this was a good expereince for you. Like you said you are learning a lot from this experience. How are you feeling about everything today?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

Okay, so Im also re learning if things dont go how I hope, Im very emotional and dont handle it well. A friend to talk to would be so nice right now.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

I am (re) learning that I CAN feel-good feelings again. Even if nothing amounts long term, it's still nice to know that this is possible.

It also reminds you of how good and positive you can feel about yourself and life, when you are experiencing positive emotions. It's just nice to be this way again.

I have also taken a giant step back and a good hard look at myself in perspective to all this. I don't want to race in to a situation like this blind to the reality and scope of everything. ( I dont want to screw up!)

I also like the fact that it's nice to have something to look forward to, and......one reason I havn't done more fun activities....no one fun to do them with. I don't like being with ME all the time. Plus it looks weird when I hold my hand and hug myself! :) LOL

I also learned how to make Hearts on FB <3

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11216

That is amazing Lance!

I am so happy for you!

What have you been learning about yourself now?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 194

So far this has been a positive thing! I just really boosting the mood and I feel happy! I forgot what happy felt like. Its nice.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

Lance, you've heard it before but I have to agree. Take it slow, go for coffee, don't rush things, don't push things, just take it slow and easy. It took me a year to finally let go enough to date someone after not having dated 5 years prior to. I got to know the guy first through others, meeting him and then getting to know him before taking it to a "relationship" status.

I didn't want to set myself up for a fall. I was afraid and I believe justifiably so. I have laid everything on the line and we've discussed how to handle things if he decides he wants to see other people. It helps to know and walk through those 10 questions. What's the worst thing, what's the best thing, how will you cope if....., they are posted many times on this website. I use them frequently when trying to make decisions.

Okay, ditto what was said before

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 121

As the others said, talking and catching up with an old friend can be soul-lifting and exhilarating. I'm still healing from my divorce (it's been 4 years!) and I would caution anyone to take it slow when stepping back into the relationship scene. It's wonderful that you've found this, Lance. Please don't take me wrong. Just take it very slow and step back once in a while to take a breather. I'm just saying this out of concern and care.

Hugs,

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