Loss
Hey J... thanks so much for coming back to continue this "conversation". You are definitely in a very difficult time and situation in your life. You show such awareness of what is happening (for you and ppl close to you) and how you are feeling and thinking and even what you need to do for yourself... then it seems to me like you just totally disregard all that insight and awareness. And not just disregard it, but stomp on it and tamp it down to invalidate everything you feel and want and need. What purpose does that serve? Sure, I know... this is what high functioning depressives do best... take care of everyone else and disregard ourselves.
You wrote:
i wish i could just push a pause button on my life and just take a break
for a while, let myself just be for a while, then get back into the
grind after i have had some time...
Can you set aside judging yourself for wanting (needing) that and look for ways to make it happen? Or maybe just start with the idea that it would be OK to take time to just BE... and then watch for ways it might be possible. I am finally learning that when we change our perspective it is amazing what we can suddenly see.
You say you can't take "more" time off, but being a personal caregiver to a dieing loved one is no "time off". It just isn't. There is nothing more difficult, time consuming, emotionally and physically draining. Please, please if you do nothing else, acknowledge that you are worn out and depressed for a very legitimate reason.
One last thought for now... I too spent my life trying to do everything "right". I've finally come to see that there is no one right way to do anything. All of us do the best that we can in the moment. And that is just the way it is. Life presents us with many roads and many alternative routes...
The DC is one route we are fortunate to have found. There are many brave and amazing people here. Hopefully we can encourage each other and be encouraged on our way. Keep coming back. Keep posting. It helps so much to be heard and not judged. Yes?