Hi! I'm a 27 year old female and have been having alcohol-related issues. I've always been a drinker, like through University, and the few years since. In the past year or so, I've started to worry about myself, and noticing that people around me are slowing down but I don't know when to stop.
I drink once a week with friends, and never feel the 'need' to drink. It's when I have a few, I can't stop and need more. In the past year, I have fallen off a cliff, had unprotected sex, gone to after parties with strangers and done other dumb things that have put my life at risk, all because I drank way too much. This past Friday night, I drank a bottle of wine and about 5 pints over the course of 8 hours and don't remember two full hours of the night. I don't know how I got home and was luckily safe in my bed alone. But I'm scared for what will happen to me next time.
I'm finding it really difficult to assess whether this is alcoholism, or if I can seek guidance on how to moderate. Very often, I will go out and have 2, 3 or 4 and be fine, but it's after 4 drinks where I get myself in big trouble. I keep telling myself I'll never do it again, and I'll be really good for a few weeks, maybe even months, and then I have these really scary blackout binge nights.
Can anyone relate/offer guidance? I thought of maybe seeing a therapist, rather than jumping to the alcoholism conclusion.
Kingie, I can relate. Since promising myself in June I would moderate and drastically reduce, I have had two major slip ups. On Saturday I got 'black out' and had a one night stand. This is particularly difficult because I'm in a new and healthy relationship and am struggling with self-destruction. This year I have learned the practice of self-compassion and will forgive myself for this and learn from it. Try writing down what you learned, so that you can assure yourself your slip was not in vain. Good luck!
I have had only bad experiences from binge drinking this year. Since promising myself in June I would moderate and drastically reduce, I have had two major slip ups. On Saturday I got 'black out' and had a one night stand. This is particularly weight on me, because I'm in a very new and healthy relationship with an amazing person. While we haven't had the 'exclusive' talk, I know how upset I'd be if I knew he had done the same thing. I wonder if I did it to self-harm. I know that I am a good person worth of love, but I can't believe I jeopardized it because of alcohol. This year I have learned the practice of self-compassion and will forgive myself for this and learn from it, but for now it is difficult.
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