Craig, welcome to AHC. I was a closet drinker too. About august of 2006 I visited a shrink and after hearing my family history, he suggested I visit AA meetings. What a difference. I slowly understood what it means to be an alcoholic. An alcoholic, cant stay away from alcohol on his own resource. The mind tricks us into taking that first drink and then we get drink. Restless, irritable and discontent we could throw in other maladies, thats what I was, an emotional being. Didn't know how to handle situation and had to have booze to fix it.