hi moody,
how do you define yourself? sometimes we hold on because we are holding on to our identity...
my father-in-law always was the man-of-the-family, accountant, husband. And he crashed when he retired. he became R-e T-i-r-e-d. in other words nothing valueable. no hobbies, no pleasures. no other way to see himself ! many older men with the eartern-european machismo have trouble with retirement because they define themselves as breadwinner, father, husband.
I have learned to say my job I do because I enjoy it. I love my best friend and married him as a promise to us to work our relationship. I adore my children and will evolve as their needs change. But I am my own person. I have likes and dislikes. I see the world in my own way. Politics, religion, philosophy, ---logies are all part of my understanding of how the world turns. And I need to put me at the center. I live to help others as I better myself.
So how do you present yourself? How do you think of yourself -negative and positive-? Your likes, dislikes, hobbies and job fit where?