You need to talk to someone. You are dealing with some symptoms that you can't do anything about. The only thing that you can really do is take care of yourself and your kids. I have just been down a horrible path with a husband that was diagnosed with alcoholism and major depression. He drank to feel better-didn't work. He was always angry and blamed everyone for his unhappiness. He came home, went downstairs and then said our marriage was bad. It wasn't; the depression was. I know exactly how you feel. It is a long lonely road for awhile but somehow it gets better when you let the power go and take control.