In general, there are three types of negative core beliefs:
• Negative Core Beliefs about Yourself
• Negative Core Beliefs about the World and Others
• Negative Core Beliefs about the Future
All negative core beliefs can cause problems. Theories also suggest that certain dispositions and certain life events will affect people differently. There are two categories:
• Sociotropic: concerned about relationships, concerned of the possibility of disapproval, ones sense of self- worth is based on acceptance & love from others, wants to maintain close relationships & worries about being unlovable.
• Autonomous: have a high need to be independent and reach goals outside the relationship, sense of self worth is based on productivity, achievement and control, overly concerned with the possibility of failure & worried about being incompetent or unable.
According to theories such as by Beck, the matching between dispositions and life events can make the difference between could impact the severity of impact the life event will have on the individual. For instance, a sociotropic is more likely to be negatively affected by a break-up whereas an autonomous by being fired from his/her job.
As Greg has pointed out, you show great insight into what you are feeling and this self-reflection is really helpful in dealing with any of your future challenges.
I know you have been through parts of the program but there are two parts you may want to re-visit before talking with your Dad.
1) Take a look over some of the advice in the "How to help fellow members" a lot of the listening and supporting skills can be used in your conversations with family members.
2)also take another look at the Auxiliary, "relationships" session. It really addresses some of the knee-jerk reactions we sometimes make in conversations with loved ones.
As always come back and tell us how it went and any personal success you had with implementing some of your relationship skills.
I think that is a great way to look at it. You have a lot of great things to look forward to and time spent thinking about those things is great use of your time vs. possibly worrying about things you cannot change anyway.
You know its right in line with a part of the online program which offers techniques to challenge worries (session 11). If you feel those worries start to coming back take a second to look over this part of the program (talks about setting aside a regular
time each day to do all your worrying, etc.)
As always, thanks for sharing...let me know if any of those techniques help.
Keep sharing when things get overwhelming and, as everyone says, take it slow (its quality not quantity).
Maybe it might be useful to post a debrief after every session (only if this is not too overwhelming). That way people can share their experiences with that part of the program which allows you ample time to reflect on what you learned.
Once you’ve identified your negative core beliefs you can begin to
challenge and change them. This means that you’ll be challenging the
source of your depression. However, in order to challenge your negative
core beliefs you need to identify and test out some new positive
core beliefs.
Instead of focusing on the negative core beliefs you have about
yourself, the world, other people and the future, we’re going to get you
to focus on developing new and more positive core beliefs. In order to
do that, we want you to think about how you’d like to be, how you’d like
the world and other people to be, what you’d like the future to look
like.
As the first step towards developing more positive core beliefs
we’d like you to ask and answer the following questions. Write out your
answers in the space provided before you move on to the next page:
Questions about Yourself
1. What would you like to be like?
2. What kind of person would you like to be?
3. How would you like to behave?
4. What would you like to believe about yourself?
5. How would you be acting differently if you believed that about
yourself?
In registering for the program, you’ve also been given access to our CBT program. Below you will find a synopsis of lesson 4
In Lesson 4, you will learn…
- Common problems in keeping thought records
- How to challenge negative thoughts
- How to identify problem thinking and cognitive distortions
Finished with session 4? What did you find interesting or helpful?
Positive thinking can be a very powerful tool to use in
everyday life. Those who use positive thinking are more likely to anticipate
happiness, joy and a successful outcome to every situation.Some say that whatever the mind
expects, it finds.
Members, what are your thoughts on the powers of positive
thinking?
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