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Overcomplicating,Ruminating


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5 years ago 0 hugs4U 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Hi Ashley, When a situation comes up,and it seems to be taking too much time, I recall a chiropractor watching me describing how to buy a chair, and the endless choices. His simple response was "don't overcomplicate it". So I try to catch myself and simplify, which is opposite to what I do, it seems. It's what some people say in situations which needs "divine intervention", and they respond, "what would Jesus" do? Tomorrow I would be in the area of an acupuncturist, and I was indecisive about whether I should stop at their office for a treatment, so I just let my fingers make the booking through the seamless system in a moment and was committed and slipped by the resistance, since my body(through fingers typing) is more grounded, than my mind. There are actual pressures which make my life complicated, though, when I write a thought record. eg. there's no family member to back me up in caregiving, so I end up with a back ache, which is resuming treatment. I also tried to think of what it was like when I was less indecisive, and more "spontaneous", and generous with myself. I can see myself getting freer if I can get that caregiving, which I'll have to pay for, somehow, since it's a relief when I do get the little I get weekly. Much of life is, for example, full of complexity, since our lives in the western world have so much affluence, which isn't necessarily good for all. I'm a simple guy. I have forgotten core belief work, and relaxation, though.
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Overthinking  and ruminating can cause a lot of  anxiety that is certain. And the more you do  it the  more it  becomes a pattern.  So the question is how do you break  the pattern?  Well,  if we take a CBT stance then the  answer is systematically challenge our thinking until we form a new pattern. This is easier said of course but it is true. How have you tried to change this pattern so far hugs? Posting here is a great start!
 
 
 
Ashley, Health Educator
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5 years ago 0 hugs4U 4027 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Davit, Maybe positive thinking is less tiring as is smiling rather than frowning?
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
Hugs

Every thought has a number of possibilities. Some negative some positive. It takes a while to break the conditioning that makes us choose the wrong one. You will note that unless I am justifiably upset that I always pick a positive one. Over the five years I have been here it has made a major difference in how I deal with the stress in my life. Positive is less physically tiring.

Davit.
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Davit, I wonder if "thinking" is just a skill I didn't pick up, since concern is contructive, but worry is the other end of the spectrum?
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5 years ago 0 Davit 6252 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo
When a song gets stuck in my head I play something without words to get rid of it. As for worry, I quit being concerned because when it is time to do it, it will either work or it won't. Usually it works so why waste the time on worry. If you have time to worry then you are not busy enough. 

Davit.

I have a mouse in my green house, now it needs to worry.

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I don't know why, but I can keep chewing the same thing over and over through worry. Does anyone know the country song by Blake Shelton which uses the phrase "chew tobacco, chew tobacco, chew tobacco, chew..."?

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